- 8 years ago
- Wedding: August 2010
I usually don’t say much about my in-laws but I have officialy had enough.
My Fiance has three sisters who along with their mother think its fun to torture me when I come over. They all gang up on me and when I try to ignore them they sit there and talk about me while I am in the room. This has been going on for years. They have never liked me. They think woman should simply just serve their husband and not be strong willed at all. I studied abroad and from that point on they have thought I was the most selfish person. I finished college and got a degree and they are very upset that I went ahead and got myself a good job. In their eyes woman are supposed to be quite being who sit in the corner. They all have very high level degree and neither work (the are proud to say they got their Mrs. degrees)My Fiance is not allowed to be around his neices and nephews because of me. I spent so many years of trying so hard. For every little holiday, Halloween, Easter, etc. I always made a point to pick them up a little surprise. Their mothers go ahead and return everything I get them. This year I got one of his nephews a race track which he loved, and they tried to tell him he couldn’t open it because it had to be returned.
When we got engaged things got a little difficult. His sisters believed that they should be in the wedding, one of them even was so upset over the fact that she wasn’t my maid of honor. Fiance and I went back and forth and we decided that since we are having my brother and his neices and nephews would be in the wedding that I would try to make amends and include them. They have been a nightmare, they refused to come dress shopping and wouldn’t pay for their dresses (his mother gave me a check). They won’t be involved in anything with the wedding and when I try to include them they just knock down my ideas. One of them has even dropped out. Since we got engaged Fiance has really seen that it isn’t me. He has stepped up to his family and told them that if they don’t respect me then they will be lucky if they see him on holidays. I hate the way this has played out but I am glad that he has seen that I am not crazy.
While I don’t pat myself on the back for this because it has been a team effort, when we got together Fiance was doing drugs and living the party lifestyle. Now his is clean and is extremely successful and owns him own company, so I don’t think I can be any mother’s worst nightmare. She just hates me because he doesn’t need her. She is on every one of his siblings bank accounts along with their husbands. That was not going to fly with me, I don’t want my mother in-law involved in our finances.
2 of them are still in my wedding. They have not offered to help my mother with my shower at all and couldn’t even bother to reply. I hate the fact that they are in my wedding and I just can’t wait for this all to be over.
The latest…. I have been blocked from their facebook pages! Seriously how immature!
I have tried for 5 years to amend this relationship and I just can’t do it anymore My Fiance still tries to seek their approval and I feel awful that the continue to hurt especially him every time he tries to reach out.
Thanks for letting me vent!