(Closed) In-laws/Long Vent

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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400 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Wow! Thats sounds tough.  I think you and your Fiance need to take them out of your wedding.  Don’t let them ruin your wedding you shouldn’t feel like you can’t wait for the wedding to be over b/c they are in it.  You have put up with enough and it’s time to stand up to them. Hugs & Good Luck.

Post # 4
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408 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Oh no, I’m so sorry that you have endured such childish and horrible behavior for so long. I know you tried to make amends, but they should never have been included in your wedding from the beginning, you want people who support yout marriage 100%, not those that hate you. I am happy to hear that fiance has stepped up to defend you against his family because that is his role, but I do understand that you would never want the family relationship to be as such. Please pray on it (not sure of your spiritual beliefs) and always respect them, then keep it moving!

Post # 5
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248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Geez, they sound like the kind of people you don’t want in your life.  You’re never going to have anything in common with them, and they seem like they can’t possibly get along with someone different than them even when you try.  I’m glad your fiance is now on the same page as you, and isn’t caving in to their expectations.  I would keep including them in the wedding but not expecting any assistance of any kind, and then afterwards just go on with your life and rather than trying to fix your relationship with them, just keep up the most basic courtesies so you are the bigger person.  Like, send them gift cards or cash instead of presents (no need to set yourself up to be insulted) and find other things to do on the holidays.  As long as you hold on to your dignity and keep being the bigger person, you can feel good about yourself, you don’t need them to approve of you.  Wow. 

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