Post # 1
I wanted to do a donation to a hospital where my mom and my fiance’s sister both had their cancer treatment in lieu of a traditional wedding favor. They both passed away from their cancers. It would say something like, “In lieu of a traditional wedding favor, a donation has been made to (hospital cancer center) in loving memory of bride’s mom, (name) and groom’s sister, (name).” However, I have heard some controversial things about doing donations in lieu of favors. What do you guys think? Good idea? Bad idea?
Also, if you like the idea, should I do a card at each place setting? One larger sign by where people pick up their seating cards? One larger sign on each table?
Post # 3
I think it sounds like a great idea! A lot of people are turned off by the idea because you are making a donation in someone else’s name where they might not approve of it. Now, I don’t know of many people who wouldn’t be okay with sending donations to a hospital but still, some people are like that. I’m sure everyone at your wedding will understand the sentiment and think it’s a nice idea.
I didn’t have favors at all so don’t worry about not doing something that you can give them.
Also, I think you should do one sign, by the seating cards.
Post # 5
I think this is a great idea!
I found this wedding on a blog a while back and bookmarked it. Their favors were purple bracelets that benefit the American Cancer Society and they attached a little card with a sentences about the donation to the bracelets. I thought it was a really good idea.
Post # 6
i think its a sweet idea and it also includes your mom and his sister in your wedding.i would have a sign with the seating cards were everyone is sure to read it 🙂
i would not use the word in lieu,it reminds me of a funeral saying in the obituaries.
Post # 7
I like the idea. My friend did similar thing at her wedding in memory of the groom’s dad and her aunt (they donated to a cancer support society). What they did was have small table set up at the entrace to the reception room. They put pictures of her aunt and his dad on the table with a candle, and a separate sign with similar wording as yours. I think that it was a very good idea. And honestly that was better than me getting to bring home some silly favors that I will probably throw away anyway. I think one sign is enough.
Post # 8
As a guest, it wouldn’t bother me, but just throwing this out there:
As the favours are for your guests, shouldn’t the donation be made in your guests’ names?
Post # 9
do it! don’t let the naysayers sway you!!
i think it is an absolutely beautiful gesture. sorry for your losses
Post # 10
we did donations to charity as well, wedding favors are usually never used again and most are pretty tacky so I think stick with your guns and donate
Post # 11
I think this is great! I did a charity donation as well to two breed-specific animal charities that are the same breed as our dogs and we were really happy with our decision (especially when we received the thank you emails from the organizations). DH and I only keep photobooth favors and we always end up chucking other favors, so we didn’t want to waste our money on favors others will chuck.
We wanted to save money and trees so I just did a table-top sign by the guestbook rather than doing a card at every seat/table. I figured the money I didn’t spent by doing all these cards would go to the charity as well.
I think the only time these things become a problem is when people pick controversial organizations, such as political parties or a non-profit with a history of controversy (e.g. Peta).
Post # 12
Thanks for your thoughts. Yes. When I make the donation it would be honor of our guests. I would write that down on the donation page. However, it is in memory of my mom and his sis. There are actually two separate spots for this on the form you fill out for the donation. Would you feel slighted as a guest if you were there, and I did this?
Thanks, everyone, for your helpful comments! Anyone else?