(Closed) In light of recent posts… can we get some good BM vibes going?

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
894 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I know I am one of the complainers out there lately but I have to say I LOVED being a bridesmaid – I wanted to be at every dress appointment, I wanted to help with favors, I wanted to be with the bride every step of the way. Yes, I hated the dress but, I loved her and that’s all that mattered. I actually cried when we zipped her into her dress because I was that happy for her and that happy to be there with her.

Also, although I have complained about my one bridesmaid that was originally my Maid/Matron of Honor I have to give props to the other bridesmaid that stepped up to be Maid/Matron of Honor. I know it has to be hard knowing you weren’t asked first but, she has taken the role and ran with it. Even when she was “just a bridesmaid” she went on a 7 hour roadtrip with me to Church Street Bridal so I could look at their dresses. She’s planned my whole shower on her own and she has been at every appointment. She is actually “anti-marriage” too. Not that she doesn’t believe people should get married, she just never wants to get married. She’s been amazing and I couldn’t ask for anything more from her!

Post # 4
3771 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

My BFF asked to be a bridesmaid and I am honestly so excited! I really want to throw her the best shower ever. This is the first time I will have ever been a bridesmaid, so hopefully everything will go smoothly:)

Post # 5
5072 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’ve been a bridesmaid 5 times and an Maid/Matron of Honor once and had fun every time.  I tried to be as involved as possible.

my Maid/Matron of Honor and maids are great!  They are always emailing or calling asking if there’s anything they can do for the wedding.  

Post # 6
3942 posts
Honey bee

I LOVE my bridesmaids!

I have 4, and theyve been amazing. My Future Sister-In-Law especially has been so excited from the very start. Sometimes even more than me I think 🙂 They always ask how planning is going, they were so easy picking out Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses, and theyve been emailing back and forth for months about the shower and bachelorette.

They live all over the country, which I was worried might make things difficult, but I cant say how amazing theyve been to me. I’m really lucky and blessed.


Post # 7
5117 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

My girls were lifesavers on my big day! I seriously get teary thinking about just how awesome they were. They anticipated my every need (and want- I mean, for real, they showed up with coffee and bananas and caramel rolls for me by 8:30am!). They ran last minute errands on the day of, finished crafts I hadn’t quite wrapped up, they helped me find my jewelry when I was nearly in tears because I couldn’t find it in the room full of stuff, they were just ON.

And I had a hug every which way I turned, and makeup reappliers, and tissue dabbers, constantly checked in to make sure I was eating throughout the day, etc, etc. They were SO awesome. Even my photog commented on just how happy and cheerful and awesome this crew was. Seriously, I love them all, and I couldn’t have asked for better friends. These girls came through with flying colors for me, I didn’t have a care all day long!

Post # 8
1728 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

ive been a bridesmaid an i have 5, i was sooo worried bout a dress and the price- but YAYA on monday we picked a dress and they all love it! its not what i had in mind originally but im totally happy!

who says 6 women and 1 man cant agree?? LOL totally happy with them and pleasantly surprised..now I cant wait!

Post # 9
3175 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My girls have been awesome so far. Seriously, awesome.

They all live in various states in the midwest, all the way across the country from where I am now, and they are still so on top of everything! I’ve tried to be laid back & not ask anything of them, but they’re always texting & asking how wedding planning’s going and if I need help, reminding me to do things, etc. And they’re all taking extra days of work because of the timing of my wedding & the distance they have to travel with absolutely no complaints. I feel like a lucky bride.

Post # 10
1759 posts
Buzzing bee

I have to say, I adore my BMs. They are totally supportive and have been with me every step of the way. They have also offered to do things even when I didn’t ask, and happily agreed to do things when I did ask.

I’ve enjoyed being a Bridesmaid or Best Man in the past as well. I love helping someone make their special day! And I feel so honored that someone considers me a good enough friend to be in their wedding party. One of my friends didn’t even have official BMs because she thought there would be too much drama, but another friend and I stepped in to be fake BMs and did everything BMs do, except stand beside her, obviously!

Post # 11
128 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I got to ask my bridesmaids this past weekend and they were SO excited! My wedding isn’t for 17 months, and they’re already talking about the showers and bachelorette party. I’m so excited to share this special time with them. 

Post # 12
10283 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I have nothing but wonderful things to say about my BM’s. They totally blew me away with everything they did for our wedding. All I expected of them was to purchase their dress (which I let them choose themselves) and show up but they did so much more. I had the most incredible bridal shower and my bachelorette was a blast! They were there for me whenever I needed them, no questions. I didn’t bother them with DIY’s or anything like that (I’m a bit of a perfectionist and I’d rather do it myself) but they always offered me their assistance. It probably helped that 2/3 of my ‘maids were recently married and still had weddings on the brain but even my Maid/Matron of Honor who is unmarried and claims she won’t tie the knot for many years was into it. We went to a handful of bridal shows during our engagement and almost all of them were initiated by them. I didn’t want to be that bride who forced her girls to tag along to boring shows but they were totally into ‘em. I really do have the best friends. They’re so amazing!

As for being a bridesmaid myself, LOVE it but I’m sure that’s because I just really love weddings in general. I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man in both of my married BM’s weddings and I had a blast. At times it was stressful when their other BM’s couldn’t come through and I ended up forking over a crapton of money but that wasn’t either of the brides fault. I always offered my assistance in anything that they wanted help with and was eager to discuss all things wedding. I seriously can’t friggin’ wait until my best friend (my MOH) gets engaged. I’ve already pretty much planned her whole bridal shower! Lol 

Post # 13
1488 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I am definitely one of the complainers! You all are lucky to have such awesome BM’s!! 🙂

Post # 14
1733 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My Maid/Matron of Honor is amazing she always tells me it up to you I will wear whatever you want its your day.  FH’s sister is great she is super excited and is happy I let them pick there own dresses and shoes.  My other friend lives a few hours away but always responds to my text, phonecalls and emails.

Post # 15
4150 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I really love my bridesmaids.  I don’t know if it’s because I’m getting married a little bit older (I’ll be 31) so people have grown up, but they are seriously amazing.  My sister (my MOH) planned my bachelorette party as a weekend away, and I felt bad asking people to travel – every one of them had bought a plane/train ticket within 2 days.  Amazing.  I’ve been in every one of their weddings over the past 3 years, and they have all been waiting for Fiance to propose to me for years so they are genuinely really happy for me and it shows.  I really love them.

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