- Wedding: May 2017 - Ocean front
I felt compelled to jump in on this thread….as my FH and I are both on the same page with regards to sex lately….we could care LESS about it. We work hard, and have become a little lax at hitting the gym so are a bit out of shape which I think could very well be playing a part, but we are on the same page so I have not seen this as an issue.
We are in our mid 40’s and we both admittedly dont get the “urge” much anymore, but remain very sweet, caring and cuddly with eachother. We have the best times, share a mutual respect for each other, and the list goes on and on I truely love this man.
I guess I never worried too much (as we are both on the same page) unlike some of my girlfriends who share stories that they want more (or less) than their SO which causes thier relationship alot of friction…we dont have that, so I have never considered it an issue and it’s been like this for I’d say the last couple of years (together 4.5) when I guess everyday life and stress, tiredness took us over and we didnt find it as imporant.
I have had my share of bad past relationships that were full of passion and lust, but ended in terrible hurt and pain.
My FH and I very rarely fight, have alot in common and truely love eachother. We have shared similiar stories of heartbreak with people from our past who didnt treat us right or have a fraction of the qualities that we share that have formed our solid foundation of trust, mutual respect, and a very fulfilling life together…I always look forward to seeing him at the end of my day and visa versa.
I can’t say that this thread hasnt got me at least thinking that maybe we should try to foster more sexual initmacy in our relationship….the fact that neither of us seems to have a sex drive may be tough…who’s going to initiate?! LOL
It comes down to, I just can’t imagine either of us choosing to end the best relationship we have ever had to go and find someone to have sex with…not to mention I would be heartbroken without him, and have grown very close to his two kids and family over the years, to throw this all away for sex, again seems strange since it is not an issue for either of us.
When our sex drives started diminishing we did talk about it and checked in a few times so we were on the same page. We agreed we both love each other dearly, and that the fact we were both over our ideal weights and felt unnatrractive overall, tired from the daily grind etc was the cause and we would make efforts to improve our health (still workin on that!) and by default this may create more sexual desires I guess.
I hope I havent had my head up my ass, being so happy and content for the first time in my looooong life?!? uuugh : /