Post # 1
I’m a first year medical student with about a 1k-2k budget for my wedding so a lot of it will be DIY and limiting the guest list, when can I even have a wedding?
This summer would have been ideal but its too much a rush for him, I personally would have loved it. He wants a summer wedding so thanksgiving/spring/winter breaks are out.
I am thinking next summer a week after the step 1 exam but I am worried I won’t have enough time for all the DIY and I absolutely don’t want wedding stress on top of step 1 stress.
Everyone keeps telling me that third year will be impossible so that leaves my next choice to be the end of fourth year before residency. I don’t know too much about what that time period will be like. I’ll probably end up moving out of state and we’d like to buy a house for residency, so I am not sure if that complicates matters any.
So what to do bees? Any medical school/grad school brides have any advice?
Post # 3
@CrazyCatLady13: My advisor gave me the best advice ever. If you want a career there is no good time. You just have to make stuff work. That said, my mom said 3-res yrs of med school are THE WORST and you can barely breath. So I’d say before then or after (which would mean waiting YEARS)
Post # 4
What are you planning on doing with your last name after you get married? If you intend on either keeping your own, or using your own professionally but using his for personal matters, then that’s not too relevant to your decision; but if you want to take his name and use it professionally, then I would consider planning the wedding sooner rather than later. That way you can start building your professional reputation under the name with which you’ll be practising after you graduate.
Post # 5
so, step 1 is kinda stressful – I know that for me, studying for that test simultaneously would’ve taken all the joy out of wedding planning… Also, as much as some people might try to tell you that the score doesn’t matter that much, it kinda does. I’ve sat on residency applicancy boards, and you don’t get an interview at our program without a certain step 1 score (more or less). And I’m not in ortho or plastics or anything uber competitive like that…
and 3rd year is sort of ridiculous, not much time for a wedding then either…
at least at my medical school, I had several months off in 4th year. I used them for a vacation and for residency interviews, but you could probbly allocate them for a wedding.
I know of a lot of people who got married between med school and residency. Can be a busy time though if you’re moving cross-country.
As others said, there’s often no ideal time, you’ve just gotta do it! Have you considered a destination wedding? Might make things a little simpler…
All that stuff about step 1 being said, I’ve somehow managed to plan my wedding for a few days before my specialty oral boards. Awesome… After being really upset for a few days I decided to just roll with it. No time is perfect, you just have to make sure you’re going to be able to enjoy the experience!