Post # 1
As I am a 40 year old first time bride I have lost quite a few family member that I would want to be remembered at my wedding. I feel like reserving chairs might get too overwhelming, due to the sheer number of people. Any ideas on how to handle paying homage to a larger group without lumpimg them all into one.
Post # 3
I had these photo charms made of my 3 grandparents that had passed away as well as my Fiance father and grandmother: http://www.etsy.com/listing/71736017/c1-custom-photo-mini-charm-with-vintage
They are exquisite and I’m so excited to have them on my bouquet.
We’re also going to make a tribute in our program. I just love the charms though – and they are something you can keep forever.
Post # 4
Print a saying like “in memory of those who are with us in spirit” or something along those lines onto a sheet of vellum and wrap it around a tall glass candle holder (with a shorter candle inside). That doesn’t come across as creepy/morbid to anyone the way that empty chairs will.
Post # 5
Maybe a frame with each of there pictures sitting on a table in the reception space? You can put a few memorial items or a few candles etc.
Post # 6
If there was one person or a few people you were particularly close with – I got a locket pin that will go on my bouquet, for a picture of my gramma and FI’s uncle.
For other family members we’ve lost, we’ve collected wedding photos of our grandparents, greatgrandparents, and a few of our aunts and uncles. Anyone who has passed on will have a tea light under their picture.
I’ve also seen people include deceased relatives in their programs.
…but just be cautious not to make it too heavy or mournful – this is a day for celebrating – they wouldn’t want you or any of your guests to feel sad.
Post # 7
What about putting a branch centerpiece on the escort card table and hanging charms for your loved ones who have passed. You can frame a note under it that says “in loving memory” or something like that and put it nearby.
Post # 8
We are going to do a bouquet of flowers with a card saying that they are there to remember those who are no longer with us.
Post # 9
My sister passed away so I wrote a poem to her and I think we are going to put it on a chair with a flower. However we are also going to have our officiant say this during the right time in the ceremony:
“At this time, (Bride and Groom) would like to remember (name), (Bride/Groom’s) (relationship), as well as all the loved ones they have lost. You are in our hearts today. As we celebrate and enjoy this special occassion, we know that you are watching from above. Please bow your heads for a moment of silence.”
Although I’m making it more specific towards someone I’m sure you can make it so it’s not so specific.
I’m also going to get a charm for my bouquet and putting her picture in it.
Post # 10
@ChrisMarie: Oh goodness. I’m so sorry for your loss. 🙁
Post # 11
Thank you. And I’m sure some people would think this is sad for a celebration, but in reality I want people to know that she is important to me. She deserves to be remembered. My poem is actually titled “My True Maid-of-Honor” because I’m not claiming any of my bridesmaids to be my Maid/Matron of Honor. My fiance has a bestman, but I know my sister would be mine and I will not give that title away 🙂
Post # 12
We put this on the back of our programs and then listed names below it:
To those loved ones who could not be here today
We wish you could be standing here with us, but we know you are here in spirit. You are in our hearts always; we love and miss you.
Post # 13
I have seen at several weddings a special floral arrangement up front, with a flower for every person being honored and a mention in the program.
Post # 14
My mom passed away when I was 20 and although it may be sad to some I will have a very large bouquet of white lilies on her chair that will then be moved into the reception on the table with the card box and a poem.
Post # 15
These are absolutely some great ideas. I will incorporate the charms into my bouquet because I really like that idea. And I think I may go with the candle idea since there will already be a lot of candles at the ceremony/reception it wont stand out as being morbid, but I also liked the idea for the place card table. I really appreciate the ideas. Thank you.