(Closed) In Memory of . . .

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
1514 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

What about a memory candle on the alter or at the guest book table.

Post # 4
250 posts
Helper bee

I did a candle with the following poem (printed on vellum which was attached to the candle):

In Loving



This light shines

as a symbol of

a life and love



John Doe

Post # 5
595 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

My grandpa past away last summer.. we will be remembering him (since he was scottish and very proud of it) I am going to order my grandma’s corsage with g-pa’s tartin wrapped around it or pinned to it. and also at the table she will be sitting at we are adding a little bird ornament to the centre piece since he was a bird lover.

My g-ma is pretty private too and would not want anything said or a candle at the front so I thought these other ways were a good way to remember. I also thought of having little bags of bird seed to throw after the ceremony with a tag that said in memory of___ but we decided to stick with the other ideas. I have seen other things before – such as having pictures of (in your case) his father with him in the picture slideshow as a “wishing you were here” slide..

Hope this helps

Post # 6
5273 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

We had memory candles as well. Unfortunately my photogrpaher didn’t take pictures of them from our wedding, so here is my inspiration pic.

I think they are sweet, symbolic, and my guests thought it was a very beautiful touch.


Post # 7
4024 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think just having a candle burn for him would be a really pretty subtle way to remember him. You could put this candle on the table with his wife during dinner, and have it burn the whole time during the ceremony up front with you guys.

Post # 9
705 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

We are doing this in kind of a general way.  In the very beginning of our ceremony we will have a moment of silences to honor those not with us.

Post # 10
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I would make sure that he really wants to have something at the wedding.  My mother died when I was in high school but I didn’t want any obvious things bringing it up, we just had the officiant mention that we were honoring the people who were no longer with us.

Post # 12
606 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We plan on doing memory candles with some pictures of them in their youth and as we remember them (so a pic of Grandpa in his WW2 grab and one at his birthday a year before he passed).  I will have to see how it looks all together, we might just do one or the other.

Post # 13
4485 posts
Honey bee

Don’t do things to please other people or because someone will be expecting it. That defeats the purpose. Does he want anything on display? If not, then skip it. Be aware that pictures on display may upset people since it is supposed to be a happy time. Having a candle lit is a great compromise and you don’t have to say anything about it.

As far as your FH’s interests, the day should reflect him too since he’s also getting married. If you don’t want baseball centerpieces, get a themed groom’s cake in his favorite flavor.

Personally we aren’t doing anything because they are with us in spirit. Also, if we have anything on display, it will cause our family and friends to be upset/uncomfortable since it does give off a funereal vibe, even if that isn’t the intention, which is the last type of feeling we want anyone to have.

In the end though, you have to decide what works best for you that doesn’t make any of your guests uncomfortable.




Post # 14
1757 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I was also looking for some subtle ways of remembering my mom, who died in 2005. She was a huge Queen fan, so I’m using one of their songs for my processional. She also really liked butterflies, so I’m incorporating them into my bouquet. I’m not sure if your fiance’s father had any favorite songs, but perhaps you could incorporate them into the pre- or post-ceremony music, or see if he wants to use that song for the mother-son dance. Or maybe you could include some NY Yankee item in your fiance’s bout. 

Post # 15
43 posts
  • Wedding: May 2010

I just found some inspiration for this the other day. And I can not remember where I found it… Actually, I may have found it on here…

But I think this is sooo important to honor them some way.


Post # 16
681 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

I know that you said you weren’t having programs but I thought I would mentione this in case anyone else is looking for ideas…

A friend of mine recognized her late father by mentioning in her program “The flowers the Bride is carrying are in honor of her father, (NAME)”

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