- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
I’ve been engaged for more than a year now and I’ve been elbow-deep with the wedding planning. My wedding is not until next year June but I already got my dress, my bridesmaids dresses, and planned out my whole wedding theme based on the colour of the bridesmaids dress which is “Cherise”, which is like a shade of deep magenta.
Now a cousin of mine got engaged about 6 months after me and just got married a week ago. All I knew of their wedding was that it was a country theme, and the colours were “Sangria” and orange. I wasn’t able go to their wedding due to work and finances, so I didn’t see all the details of their wedding until they posted it on facebook.
It turns out my cousin’s fiancee have almost the same (if not the very same) colour for their wedding. I was very disappointed and surprised that her version of Sangria is the same shade as my Cherise. I’ve had a lot of Sangrias before so I know it’s not magenta in colour but more like a deep red, which is why I went ahead with my Cherise.
Now I’m torn. I don’t want to use the same colour that was already used in a wedding that almost all of our family went to. I don’t want to hear from people that I’ve “copied” her colours. And I don’t want to have constant comparisons between her wedding and mine.
But then again, I love the colours I’ve already picked. I’ve based my whole wedding theme on that colour. My cousin’s more of a country theme and mine is all contemporary and crystals. The bridesmaids dresses are also very different. Theirs were like a tea-length 20’s style dress with a bolero, and mine is a girly strapless flowy short dress.
Now I still have until Thursday to change my mind about my bridesmaids dress colour before the orders get sent to the manufacturer.
Should I change my colours out of respect for my cousin’s recent wedding and avoid all the possible snarky comments I would most likely hear from some relatives? Or should I go ahead with my colours anyways since I’ve already picked the dress and colours before I knew of theirs and I feel I should have my wedding the way I want to anyways?
Half of me wants to nice and polite, and the other half wants to have the wedding of her dreams… without the drama.