(Closed) In need of help, advice, prayers…

posted 6 years ago in Christian
Post # 3
6 posts
  • Wedding: November 2012

First of all, I think it’s great that you feeling led back to God, but without the pressure from anyone else. As a Christian, I think it’s important to encourage others and teach them about God and let them make their own decision without beating them over the head with a Bible (not literally of course), because many times that leads exactly what happened to you– dislike for that “God” your parents represented.

My advice would be to continue to pray and ask God to lead you where to go. I would also suggest slowly getting back into church, whether it be a Bible Study or small group. Just visit different churches until you find one you like. Being around other believers may make it easier to talk to your Fiancé and come to terms with what you believe. I think your fiancé will support you in whatever you chose to do, just like you probably support him.

I think you chould just explain that this is your personal decision and to please respect it. You can’t help the way you feel and there must be a reason that you wanted to start listening to that radio station and doing daily devotions. If you do decide to get back into church, tell him where you are going and continue to pray for him and your relationship. He might see a change in you and become curious which is a great thing.  I will pray for you and if ever need to talk, message me.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G0ScWCfNPpI – great song about having faith

My favorite verse: “God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble” Psalm 46:1 —He’s there no matter what.


Post # 4
3697 posts
Sugar bee

Yes, as PP said: pray about it, and trust God to lead you to where you need to be. Ps. 46 is a really good text to turn to for this. It asks you to do nothing, and just know … just trust.

Post # 5
2856 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@StefLovesJamie:  I am an Agnostic, however, keep in mind that you can be a Christian without being a Pentecostal if you prefer other denominations.

Post # 6
4929 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I highly recommend reading Blue Like Jazz! It’s a fantastic book that deals with Christian spirituality. Friends have recommended Francis Chan’s books as well. They may help you sort yourself out. 


Post # 7
2616 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

most of the radio stations have pastors on staff that will pray for u and just listen to u while u talk to them.  that way u can still be annoyomous while sorting things out between u and god u and fiance

Post # 11
7685 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Do you have a (female) friend in a different church? If you could contact someone and attend with her, I think that would be good support. I don’t know Alabama churches so I won’t recommend one, but yes I think if Pentecostalism isn’t for you then I think you will something different will be a breath of fresh air.

Post # 12
463 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

That Christ may dwell in your hearts by faith; that ye, being rooted and grounded in love, May be able to comprehend with all saints what is the breadth, and length, and depth, and height; And to know the love of Christ, which passeth knowledge that ye might be filled with all the fulness of God.  -Ephesians 3:17-19

The previous scripture is my hope and prayer for you.  I hope that you continue to seek God and follow His plan for your life.  

I think you are doing good by reaching out here and reading devotionals.  I believe you should begin visiting churches.  Any church.  All churches.  Find one that feels like home to you.  The Bible says we need church.  We need to grow in the Word of God and fellowship with our fellow Christians.  I’m glad your Fiance is supportive of you.  That’s important.   

Remember to pray and ask God’s will for your life.  Allow His will to be done.  Follow Him.  🙂

My current favorite Bible verse is Deuteronomy 31:6.  “Be strong and courageous!  Do not be afraid of them! The Lord your God will go ahead of you.  He will neither fail you or forsake you.”  I chant this verse in my head a lot everyday.  It really gives me strength to do what I need to do.  DH is deployed and I live 4000 miles away from any family.  It is a nice remainder that I’m never alone.  


Post # 13
4324 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

why not check out a unitarian gathering? Explore spirituality without binding yourself to a steadfast sect of religion. http://www.uua.org/

Post # 14
349 posts
Helper bee

I was raised in the Methodist church, but occasionally visited the local Southern Baptist church with friends.  The first time I heard one of their preachers preaching the typical “hell, fire and damnation” story, I was stunned and clearly remember thinking “Our God would NEVER do that to me.”  Thanks to my mom for raising me in a faith that focused on the love, mercy and grace side of the equation!  Obviously accountability for sin eventually has to be part of the equation, but there is SO much more. 

You might check out some of the moderate Protestant denominations – Methodist, Presbyterian, or Disciples of Christ all come to mind as those who focus less on sin/guilt/shame and more on love/grace/forgiveness/service to others.  I’ll be praying for you as you struggle with these issues, and hope that you will find a supportive church family to help you with these very important decisions.  Big hug from Texas!


Post # 15
220 posts
Helper bee

I’m glad you’re not going to continue to let your negative experiences keep you away from God.  As for advice, I’d highly recommend reading some C.S. Lewis- he is a great Christian writer who tackles some of the really deep questions at the heart of human existence, and he is respected by almost all Christians, from liberals to conservatives, Catholics and Protestants.  My two favorites are Mere Christianity and The Great Divorce.

The words of Matthew 7:8 also seem fitting to your situation as you seek God and listen for his answer: For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened.

Post # 16
1828 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@StefLovesJamie:  I was raised Pentecostal, my FH is atheist and I’m also going through the same issues. However, I have come to realize over the years (I’m 42) that even among each Pentecostal church beliefs are slightly different. So now I’m making my own decisions based on what I believe God is telling me…and believe me he can be quite obvious at times!

I would say read your Bible, pray and let God open the right doors for you…don’t ever let anyone push you into what they believe. Just remember that no matter where you go there will be things you don’t like…try not to concentrate on that or the hypocritical actions of others but on just you and God.


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