(Closed) In need of honest opinions please (and thank you)

posted 5 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I love the idea!!! HOW NICE! you will just have to make sure other guests don’t decide to stay too and crash your honeymoon LOL. Nope, Dessert and dancing is just fine. It’s cute. It’s a nice way to celebrate the event without a massive to-do and bill!!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Sounds pretty awesome to me! Beach weddings in the fall are amazing.

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think it sounds fine!  7 is iffy as to whether people will expect dinner, but make it clear on the invitation with “Dessert Reception” to follow or something, and people should figure it out. 

Are many of your guests going to travel to be there?  That’s my only reservation with Friday weddings.  7 is late enough for local people to get off work, but may inconvenience some who have to travel, if that’s an issue.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Tacky? No. I’ve been to really fun booze-free weddings and 7pm is not too late. I’d suggest having more than just dessert for your guests to eat. Nobody wants to leave a wedding feeling hungry, and I’m personally more of a food-lover than a dessert-lover. I have a savory tooth rather than a sweet tooth. Maybe think about hordeurves(sp?) or a small buffet.

Can the beach house accomodate the ceremony and reception inside in case the weather is bad?

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think it’s a great idea, but not late enough. If it starts at 7, people will start arriving at 6:30. Factor in driving and getting ready – people aren’t going to be able to eat dinner. If I go to a 7:00 ceremony, I’m definitely expecting dinner, since 7:30-8 is dinner time. I think you need to push the ceremony to 8:30 at the earliest if you only want to serve dessert.

Or, even better, have a morning wedding followed by a tea – very traditional and low-cost.

ETA: Just saw your update. If everyone’s local and you’re expecting them to come after work on a Friday, then there’s no way 7:00 will work. When are people supposed to eat? And how do they have time to go home and get ready? I’m not wearing work clothes to a wedding.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

i dig it!

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think this sounds like a perfect second wedding. Having a destination wedding prevents people who really aren’t that important from coming, so you’ll have just your closest friends and family. If I were invited to a 7:00 PM wedding ceremony, I would not expect dinner, but I would make sure you specify “please join us for dessert and dancing” so that your guests aresn’t surprised (or starving). COngratulations! Your wedding will be fabulous! 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Saturday would work much better.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I agree with everyone else! No, it’s not tacky and just make sure you specify that it is a dessert reception! Have fun!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think it sounds good, with a couple of things to keep in mind:

Make sure the people you’re renting the house from are okay with you having a party there! There might be a homeowner’s association with rules about big gatherings/noise/etc. Will there be enough parking for everyone? 

And I’d add a significant amount of non-sweet appetizer food. Like, a cheese plate and crackers, veggies and dip, meatballs, some puff pastry things, maybe little sandwiches. I don’t think you need to serve a full meal, but if someone gets out of work at 5 pm, has to go home and get changed and then drive to your wedding, they might not have time for dinner. You can hit up Sam’s Club or Costco or something similar and get a bunch of frozen appetizer items that you can just pop into the oven after the ceremony! I love dessert, but I hate it when I’m hungry and all that’s available is a ton of dessert, since I’ll eat a ton of it to try to fill up and then get a nasty sugar crash. 

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Not tacky at all. I think you should start a bit later if it’s dessert only, maybe 8:30? Or, just make it clear onthe invite that dinner won’t be served.

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think it sounds great! Depending on the demographics of your group, 7pm sounds fine to me! We have a 16month old, so that would be a late night for us! lol

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