(Closed) In need of non bias views please =)

posted 7 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 3
Member
500 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I guess it might be normal to feel this way but it’s only one day. She will have her day and you will have yours. I would just concentrate on the positives. Your both getting married to the ones you love. No need to stress about something you can’t change.

Post # 4
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1160 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would actually take it as an opportunity to find out ways to make your own wedding better/easier. You’ll probably have a list in your head of things you really loved at her wedding or things you’d do differently.

 

Congratulations!

Post # 5
Member
5110 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

I think its normal to feel this way. I think you were probably just surprised about her engagement and now your parents arent there for you in the ways you thought they would be because they are helping her because her wedding is first. Yes it is just one day you each get one day, but I still think it was rude of her to plan her wedding 6 weeks before you, Who knows what kind of stress that will put on your parents etc. But you said you have planned most of her wedding. Why is that, why dont you just worry about planningyour own wedding. Anyways I am sorry that you are upset by this, things will get better, and in the end you will have a beautiful wedding. 

Post # 6
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798 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

you are 100% allowed to feel that way.

she stole your mother effin’ wedding thunder!  I’d be pissed too.

has she had her wedding yet?

Post # 9
Member
1429 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I totally agree with babybluz I’m sorry but what a horrable thing to do! I’m p!ssed for you and want to giver your sister a talking to and I don’t even know you. LOL I’m just the type that can”t hold back.

Post # 11
Member
487 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I can’t believe she just sat there all like “my wedding is going to be first!” how flippin’ weird. If it had been any other circumstance I would have said just relax, it’s a whole 6 weeks apart etc etc but to actually decide to have it based on the fact that she HAS to be first is rather rude!

Post # 12
Member
345 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

yep I would be annoyed too! but great suggestion is to pick up tips on what you would do differently on your day. so really, because your wedding will be after hers, and it will be better, everyone will have better memories of your day anyway.  So there!! you win! lol  (why do sisters manage to make us feel like little kids again sometimes?!)

Post # 13
Member
405 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would have been annoyed too.  But I think like other people say, you can learn from her wedding!

Post # 14
Member
24 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

One week after my fiance and I got engaged, his sister got engaged.  She is getting married 8 weeks after us.  Even though it’s not my sister and even though we are getting married first I was still a little upset…it really is hard sharing an egagement period with someone so closely related.  So I think it’s completely normal to feel what you’re feeling…especially in such an emotional time in your life.  I think you’ve done the right thing by being gracious about it and I wish the best for you and your future husband. 🙂

Post # 15
Member
624 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I would have been annoyed too but just like all the other posters said, use her wedding as an example of how to make yours better. Take notes, tips, and suggestions and use them!

Post # 16
Hostess
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Honestly, it’s kinda cool having your wedding second because you’ll still have it to look forward to even after your sister’s.

Also, so sorry to hear about your parents’ health!

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