Post # 1
I am in need of some job-related advice. I am a 2nd year teacher for a very small school district in Texas. I taught Pre-K last year, but was moved to 6th grade self-contained this year. I gained a new principal and as the year has progressed I find us not getting along and her offering no support other than to tell me what I’m doing wrong.
That’s not the whole problem though, my students do not care at all. They complain about each and every little thing I assign them. In their home-lives education is not deemed “important”, so I get no support from their parents. I am so utterly miserable that I am contemplating giving my notice and not coming back after Christmas. I wake up each morning wondering how I’m going to make it thru the day and hoping that I don’t run into my principal.
My main concern is that if I leave in the middle of a school year how another district might see that when I go to apply for a new job next year. I am so torn right now because I am absolutely miserable every day, but I’m worried I won’t get hired next year if I leave in the middle of the year.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated..
ETA: I should probably mention that a few days ago I was getting my haircut and was “venting” some frustrations I have with my principal to my hair dresser when from across the aisle someone said, “Oh, you work at ___________?” I asked her how she knew that (we’re REALLY small) and she said, “I’m (my principals) daughter in law.” I’m pretty sure it has gotten back to my principal because she has been very cold toward me this week..
Post # 3
I think you need to stick it out until you find another job. From what I hear, teaching jobs are not easy to come by and you might be unemployed for a long time if you just leave. Maybe at the end of the year, ask to me transferred back to pre-K or a different grade?
Post # 4
@thepoTATErs: Sorry that you are going through this. In my experience it’s easier to find a job when you have a job. Suck it up and start looking for jobs now and transfer into a new school. I would not quit. A part of maturing is learning how to get through tough situations. Dig deep, stay focused, ignore the b/s and find a new job now. Good luck.
Post # 5
@Boston Bee – They are hard to come by right now and I am so thankful to have a job! I should have added in my post that my parents own their own business and I would have a job there if need be until I find another teaching job. This is also my last year with this district because my fiance and I will be moving back “home” at the end of the year as soon as he finishes his Master’s.
Post # 6
My understanding (not a teacher, but my mom is) is that leaving mid-year would be considered unprofessional and would be a major barrier to any future employment in the teachng field unless you truly can’t work (like if you are hospitalized, not because you are in an uncomfortable work environment). So unfortunately my advice is to stick with it and do your best.
Post # 7
It is very difficult to succeed when you have a boss like this. Have you asked for support? Have you met with her specifically to discuss an action plan for your improvement? I think if you haven’t done these things, that is where you need to start. Ask her for advice on how to get the kids who don’t have parental support motivated in your classroom. Don’t sit there and complain about how hard it is for you, identify your challenges and ask for support or advice. Ask her what you can do to help the overall goals of the school. If she feels like you are on her side and willing to make improvements then maybe she will be easier on you. And who knows, maybe she really will have some good advice!
Stick it out for as long as you can. No one wants to go to a job they hate, but sometimes that is just reality. And it might reflect poorly on you and burn bridges if you need a reference in the future. If you are being emotionally abused or harassed by your superiors though, file a complaint.
Darling Husband and I both stayed in jobs we hated for over 3 years and it was a nightmare. We both dreaded going to work every day and came home miserable and drained, it was definitely a strain on our relationship. But before we finally left, we each had conversations like this with our managers so no one could say we didn’t try.
Post # 8
@moderndaisy: I have tried on several occasions to talk to my principal about the issues that are arising in my classroom and where I feel I need help improving. Most of the time she just lets me know what I am doing wrong. No advice to fix it and no other support. The last conversation I had with her about all of this ended with her saying, “Well, don’t let it get you down.” This is her last year before retirement and I feel like she has adopted an “I’m almost done, I don’t care anymore” attitude which does not help in the support department at all.
I knew that going into this year was going to be difficult for me – I mean, going from teaching Pre-K to 6th grade is a huge jump, but I definitely expected to have her there for support (she knew and asked that I make the move from Pre-K to 6th).
It has definitely taken a toll on Fiance and I’s relationship – I go home and want to talk/vent, but he just gets so sick of hearing about it so I don’t do it anymore and keep it bottled up.