(Closed) in need of support…. blahhhhhh!

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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27 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2014

All this over a disagreement over how to train a dog? The three of you have been co-living for 7 years with out issue and this is going to break it all apart? That is rediculous. I think you need to work it out with your husband on how to train the puppy you have without putting expectations on your mom. If your mom is willing to co-train to your rules & standards great, if not don’t expect her to be responsible for the dog. Hope your mom and hubby work it out.

Post # 4
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1306 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I really feel that your husband is being unreasonable. Whose dog is it? Did you all come up with a training plan? Aren’t you all adults? If he wants the dog to be trained a certain way, then he should focus on training the dog.

As for finding your mom an apartment, I find it a bit ridiculous. She gave you a TON of money with wich you bought a house to live in. Now you want to kick her out and I find it a bit unsettling especially since the issue is over a DOG. I would rather get rid of the dog and keep my Mom.

If you and hubs don’t want to live with her, I think you should move into an apartment and let her keep the house. It was really her money in the first place and your husband is going overboard IMO

Post # 5
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3053 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Unless there is history of fighting between your hubby & mom, I think this will just blow over. They need to come to some sort of agreement on the dog training, maybe just keeping the dog in a crate when she is home or putting up some sort of baby/dog gate & restricting the dog to a certain area.

Post # 6
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3104 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Why doesn’t mom clip on the leash & get the dog down that way? Your plan seems a little extreme & I think you need to chat before getting into this. 

Post # 7
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9 posts
Newbee

I truely understand your situation. It just sounds like the situation I was in with my ex-husband.

My best advise: I don’t think it’s a good idea to live with your mom. You will always end up being in the middle of the fights, and you might not be able to do anything and I know how things get stressful.

People might say “it’s just a dog”, but in future, it might be just more than a dog. Little things can spark a big fight. I think it’s a good idea how you are trying to pay your mom back, but maybe also you should talk to your mom and see how she feels instead of justing telling her this is what “I” am going to do. you know she is your mother and always will be.

Also, tell your husband it’s not a big deal to have a dog sit on a coach.. I have a dog. I had dogs, I never had a problem with a dog sitting on a coach. Get him/her a blanket and place on a coach and he/she will always sit on that blancket. It’s not the end of the world..  when you guys are not home,guess what?! he/she WILL SIT on a coach no matter what.. I know he might say “we should train when he/she is puppy..” but maybe he can accept the fact and compromise instead of getting so worked up..

I think both your husband and mom understand each other little more..

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