(Closed) In retrospect, what was biggest waste of money through out wedding process?

posted 3 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
1945 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

It was a very minor part of our wedding but the wedding favours, little organza bags with a few wedding themed rock candies inside, were pretty but utterly non-essential, most guests left theirs on the table and we took them in a bag on honeymoon and I throughly enjoyed the candy then 😂 But yeah, that was very unnecessary. We did it because I didn’t think a gift bag to take away was needed (and I’m really happy we didn’t do that! I could just imagine all the bags that would’ve been left behind as majority of guests went clubbing til 7am after our weddings finished at 2am!) but we wanted a token something, hence the candy favours.

We could easily have cut it out.

I really loved the printed invites I designed but in hindsight in this day and age using paperless post (we did for the save the dates anyway) probably would’ve been just fine and it could still have been the same design. 

We didn’t spend this but Mother-In-Law did because she insisted on welcome bags for guests and a shuttle between hotel & church (a 10 min walk) and I don’t think that was necessary (very sweet and thoughtful of her though and I helped her with the content selection of the bags).

Post # 3
2019 posts
Buzzing bee

All the little upgrades. It seemed like “oh, well $2 for a champagne toast is totally doable!” but, all those little $2 here, $3 there adds up! We paid an extra $1 for fancy envelopes for our invitations. They were really nice, but…was probably a waste of $150. 

Also- it seemed like once we upgraded one thing, we always felt like everything else had to be upgraded. For example, we upgraded our meal choice, but then felt like we should upgrade the wines…because it seemed silly to serve such an expensive meal with more inexpensive wines & beers.

Post # 4
1515 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

futremrswhite17 :  The getaway car. I did go without it.  

With the required minimum of hours you have to get them for, gratuity for the driver, and of course the cost per hour for the car itself, I just didn’t think it was a worthwhile expense.  Plus it would’ve given us less flexibility because we wouldn’t have been able to extend the reception without it costing a LOT more with the getaway car.

Post # 5
1649 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I wanted a dessert bar, but nixed it (and lost a $100 deposit) once it was going to be $800. I ended up having a popcorn and candy bar for just about $100.

Post # 7
815 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

futremrswhite17 : 

1. favors for sure! nobody took them. they were cute jelly cars (bonne maman) so actually useful and delicious. So guest def wont take favors that are useless…

2. flowers: I didnt spend a lot and so happy I didnt!

3. invites and all cards: people will throw them away, so dont spend too much money


Post # 8
421 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Like pp have said… any printed materials. You are the only one who will hang on to them as a keepsake, everyone else will recycle it as soon as they no longer need the info on it. 

This is a small cost, but in hindsight I really don’t know why I bothered spending $50 on a pretty, custom guestbook. It’s already been tucked in a box under the bed, who knows when it’ll come out again? Besides, very few of the messages are actually worth reading. Most people maybe signed their names, and of those many were just first names or even initials. 

Post # 9
225 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

camenae :  I liked what my buddy did for his wedding – he used Silvercar and rented an Audi for (IIRC) $50 for the day. So they still got to leave in a nice car without breaking the bank – plus he just drove it and they dropped it off at the airport so saved $ for parking for the honeymoon.

I’m a big car guy though, so if it is in the budget (it is an easy to cut expense, as much as I would prefer not to), I get to pick the car to rent. Poor FEE, I know what she would want, but she knows if we can afford it I would rent a red Ferrari California (and there is one in our area for abourt $600/day which is so expensive).

Post # 10
770 posts
Busy bee

I am also looking for advice on this thread, oops. I am scared to forego favors because I’ve heard some people say it’s bad etiquette to not offer guests anything to take home. Even though I feel like dinner and cake is a great gift for attending lol. I’m doing little mints with “mint to be” on them and it will only cost be $50 and I think it’s adorable so whatever. 

I also want to do a large wooden monogram guestbook so I can hang it up and hopefully it brings good memories! Not many people will be able to write long messages, but most don’t do that anyways. Someone please tell me if that guestbook is a bad idea haha. It should only cost ~$30.

These are all great suggestions.

Post # 11
169 posts
Blushing bee

msbr :  I’m going to do a similiar guestbook idea. Thinking of doing a canvas painting of our colors and paint the outline of the state we’re fromt with our names and date and get a bunch of fine point sharpies for people to sign. This can be hung up and would look cool, where as I’d never open a guestbook and sit and read through it.

Post # 12
2691 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

One thing that really irked me was our venue charged an extra 15 pp for the fish option. My hubby at the time was adamnAt that we give Everyone the choice whether vegetarian or not and we spent almost 400 extra on just giving people the option of fish.


Post # 13
2542 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

futremrswhite17 :  The biggest waste of money was on our ‘award winning photographer’ who gave us photos that I’m pretty sure any decent photographer could have given for probably half the cost.

Also our guest favours – I have seen so many cute ideas since, if I could go back in time I would have just given eveybody a little bag of seeds for their garden or somethimg cheap and natural like that. At the time I thought the favours had to be like a trinkety gift of some sort. I had no idea I let my Mother-In-Law pick it.

Lastly honestly engagement pictures. We got some good ones but after all is said and done I feel a bit ‘who cares?’ about the engagement pictures – again at the time I thought they were soooo important. We could have just had a family member take a nice picture and be done with it.

Post # 14
88 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Dance lessons…

we started out with one company and paid $700 and didnt even learn our dance (I think they purposely taught us dances that werent OUR dance and talked for 30 mins out of each 50 min lesson to just waste time so we would have to spend more on additional lessons.) We then found a private instructor and paid $975 and now know our dance but the song will be edited down to one min and 45 seconds so was $1700 worth it for a two min dance? Probably not.

it was one of the first things we looked into and at the time I felt it was important but it definitely snowballed in cost. Also after 10 mos of dance lessons, we are kind of sick of them and cant wait to not have to practice anymore. oh well, live and learn!

Post # 15
135 posts
Blushing bee

At the time, I panicked and decided we needed a second shooter and videographer for the wedding. I wasn’t pleased with the second shooter results, and we have yet to watch our wedding video. Those were the biggest money wasters for me. Looking back, there were good choices made (candy bar/sweets table as favours – no waste) and poor choices made. I just wish I hadn’t agonized over decisions as they don’t seem to matter at all. 

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