(Closed) in retrospect…

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I had 4 girls total. It seemed to work awesome for me!

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I had six and I thought it was a great number!

I don’t think I’d want to go much higher than that though or I think it just starts to become too big of a group (and I honestly couldn’t go lower unless I just had 1 or 2 – my sister and his sister – the 4 friends I had I absolutely would not be able to choose between).

It’s hard to say what number is “best” though as it all depends on how many people you have that are THAT close to you!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I had 1 Maid/Matron of Honor and 1 Bridesmaid or Best Man.  I would do it that way again 🙂

Post # 7
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Worker bee

I had two and a bridesman (my little bro), it worked well.  The only downside with my brother was that he was not legal and therefore didn’t get to participate at my stag.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Well, I’m an encore bride…my first marriage, I had 4 bridesmaids. (A maid of honor, matron of honor, and two “regular” bridesmaids, to be precise.) This time around, though, I’m not having any attendants…well, unless you count my sweet kiddos, who will be 8 and 5 when we get married. I don’t count them as attendants in the traditional sense…they’re going to walk in with me, but I’m not sure yet if they’ll stand up with us through the whole ceremony and I’m not planning to give them specific jobs/roles.

Edited to actually answer your question this time: I thought 4 was a great number, but I’m also happy to not be having a traditional wedding party at all this time around…it would feel weird to me. I think the number just depends on what you’re in the mood for, honestly!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

We have only been engaged for 3 months (wedding next Aug.) and I am already regretting my 7 bridesmaids… Actually, there is only one I would cut if I could take it back, but she’s my FI’s SIL (not sure that that makes her to me) therefore to keep the peace in the family, I will let it be. :/

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

I had 6 and I was really happy with that number.  It wasn’t so many that it wasn’t manageable, but it was nice to have a larger number so they could share the costs and the work associated with throwing my shower and bachelorette.  Really though I think it’s about the people and not the number. You should pick the people closest to you, but also, people truly love you and want to support you.  My six bridesmaids all came from different parts of my life and didn’t know each other at all.  But all I had to do was provide my Maid/Matron of Honor with email addresses from them all and she took it from there.  They got along so well with each other and it was so much fun for me to share my engagement and wedding with all of them.  I really don’t get it when I hear people talk about bridesmaid drama because it’s just not something I ever had to deal with.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I had seven in my bridal party. It was SO FUN to have everyone around on my wedding day-we had fun getting ready together-they did an awesome job on my shower and b-party. I couldn’t have asked for a better bridal party. It was weird because none of them are friends outside of being friends with me-but for the most part everyone was polite and nice to each other and I only think there was one person who was a little out of line at times. It’s hard to put that many girls together for anything” and I was worried about so  many different personalities getting along-so that is something to think about.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I had 7 bridesmaids but I wish I had had 4. I originally was going to have 4 but then my Mother-In-Law got upset that my 2 SILs were not a part of the my bridal party (because Darling Husband has 3 sisters and I didnt want to only have 1 friend) so then I added them. 4 would be a perfect number! 7 was too many!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@Mrs. Meowerson: I think that it could go either way – it could be totally fine and awesome or it could cause drama. In my case even 6 would have caused drama because my SILs and my friends really didnt get along very well! Its not that they dont like each other its just that each was trying to take over planning stuff so it caused conflict!

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I had 5, and don’t really see how I would’ve done it differently. However, if it would’ve been possible, I probably would’ve had fewer girls… maybe 3?

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Also- I didn’t have any drama or anything… It was just kind of difficult to communicate with all of them, because the three who weren’t my sisters didn’t know each other and were scattered around the country.

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