Post # 1
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208 posts
Helper bee
I have my sister who is my maid of Honor. She is about to be 20 years old. My other sister who is only 16 is my other bridesmaid. None of them are really that helpful and when I ask for help about colors, dress etc they say I change my mind too much and really act like they can’t be bothered. I know I have been searching for my dress for almost a year, but I have only taken them dress shopping 3 times. I can’t believe they would act like its a bother. Also they say they won’t be like me lol and won’t take such a long time to find the perfect dress. I think they are just young and don’t understand. 🙁 I really wish I had my friends who I trust close by so they could help. I feel so alone in my search for my dream wedding. Mayeb I should have no bridesmaids. What is the purpose of bridesmaids anyway if they are not really there for you? Just for cutre pics?? lol I just had to vent.
Post # 3
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474 posts
Helper bee
They are teenagers, they probably don’t have experience with being involved in a wedding. You should tell them your expectations if you feel that strongly about their level of involvement.
Post # 4
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1940 posts
Buzzing bee
I’m sorry you’re having a difficult time. My sister is my Maid/Matron of Honor (she’s 18) and my cousin is my Bridesmaid or Best Man (she’s 16). All that I ask of them is that they help out if they want and show up on time for the ceremony. They will help me set everything up on Friday (we are having a Saturday wedding). Just keep in mind that your wedding will never be as important to anyone else as it is to you.
It sounds like you may have a hard time being decisive about your decisions. I know that when I went dress shopping (3 times total), I felt pushed by people I went with to pick the “right” dress. The first time I went with my sister (MOH) and kind of got pushed into buying a dress. Then I changed my mind (after having a dress already) and went shopping with my mom and best friend – they had opposite opinions about every dress. Finally, I went by myself (it’s not as scary as it sounds!) and found a dress I loved.
Finally, I would recommend keeping in mind that there is no perfect dress, no perfect wedding, and most importantly no perfect groom. We can try to achieve perfection (I know that I do), but life will always get in the way. I’m not trying to be pessimistic, just realistic. Once I realized that I would never achieve the “dream” or “perfect” wedding, it took the pressure off. It’s really a day to celebrate the joining of two lives – enjoy it!
Post # 5
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208 posts
Helper bee
That is great advice. Thank You guys.