(Closed) In search of a new Maid of Honor- Siblings not working out

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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474 posts
Helper bee

They are teenagers, they probably don’t have experience with being involved in a wedding. You should tell them your expectations if you feel that strongly about their level of involvement.

Post # 4
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1940 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m sorry you’re having a difficult time.  My sister is my Maid/Matron of Honor (she’s 18) and my cousin is my Bridesmaid or Best Man (she’s 16).  All that I ask of them is that they help out if they want and show up on time for the ceremony.  They will help me set everything up on Friday (we are having a Saturday wedding).  Just keep in mind that your wedding will never be as important to anyone else as it is to you.  

It sounds like you may have a hard time being decisive about your decisions.  I know that when I went dress shopping (3 times total), I felt pushed by people I went with to pick the “right” dress.  The first time I went with my sister (MOH) and kind of got pushed into buying a dress.  Then I changed my mind (after having a dress already) and went shopping with my mom and best friend – they had opposite opinions about every dress.  Finally, I went by myself (it’s not as scary as it sounds!) and found a dress I loved.  

Finally, I would recommend keeping in mind that there is no perfect dress, no perfect wedding, and most importantly no perfect groom.  We can try to achieve perfection (I know that I do), but life will always get in the way.  I’m not trying to be pessimistic, just realistic.  Once I realized that I would never achieve the “dream” or “perfect” wedding, it took the pressure off.  It’s really a day to celebrate the joining of two lives – enjoy it!  

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