(Closed) In serious need of advice please, wedding woes :( >:(

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: What would you do?
    Talk to her first, see if she will change things and keep her husband away : (1 votes)
    20 %
    Just go ahead and have it there anyways : (0 votes)
    Just move it, no matter what she says move it : (4 votes)
    80 %
    Other : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    Member
    7689 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    @kris325: Call your church, call your restaurant ASAP. I would get/make some cheap but nice invitations and definitely change your plans, ASAP.  Yikes, I would hate for the racist husband to ruin your day. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    1583 posts
    Bumble bee

    @creativeplannertobee:  +1 i went to a wedding where i was the only black girl not working. That was awkward enough (mostly because people kept asking who i belonged to. hahahaha) without anyone being overtly racist

    Plus her not cooking what you asked for as if it is prohibitively priced? I am an ametuer (though fantastic cook) and I could co that for your guest easiy. granted we own like seven fryers between my folks and i but it is doable!

    Change your plans asap. the stress inst worth it!

    Post # 5
    Hostess
    1427 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @kris325:  OMG.  Change your venue. Call your church. Call the caterer; call your guest list and let them know the venue changed!! It is NOT WORTH this headache for you. Deal with this “friend” after the wedding is over and done with. Did you sign any contracts with her? Or was it just all decided via conversation?

    Post # 9
    Member
    7689 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    @kris325:  Did I read that you sent out postcards?  That will save you postage.  ๐Ÿ™‚

     

    Post # 11
    Member
    1686 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    omg this sounds horrible.  I would absolutely not be able to have a wedding at the house of a racist – no matter how many different cultures would be attending. Every single one of my guests could be white and it wouldn’t make a difference to how I felt. It would bother me to the point of ruining my wedding.  Good luck, I hope you can work it out.  

    Is this friend a close friend?

    Post # 13
    Member
    1686 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    @kris325:  well that’s good at least, choosing your ethics and morals and the things you want most for your own wedding won’t be an issue like it would if she was a really good friend.

    I feel so badly for you, it reminds me of how I found out that one of our groomsmen was a homophobic jerk right before the wedding – after I made sure that we found an officiant to marry us that would marry gay couples.  I went out of my way to ensure this, and then found out someone standing up with us was someone I didn’t respect.  

    That feeling is why I think it’s a good idea for you to change venues/caterers.  It’s not good to feel that way about someone in your wedding or someone who is part of it (even if he’s in the house and not attending).

    Post # 15
    Member
    1686 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    @kris325:  now that’s a great friend!  you can figure this out – I’m sure of it!  And if your parents give you shit, explain why.

    Post # 16
    Member
    18 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    DEFINITELY change your venue. Your family is going to be just as upset if you stay in your current situation and your friend ruins your wedding, as are you. This whole situation just sounds like a nightmare waiting to happen. I think, in the long run, changing your venue and having to deal with letting everyone know the location change will be a small nuisance if it makes your wedding that much better.

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