Post # 17
I don’t think anyone would be mad at you for getting engaged, and if your sister sees it that way then that’s her problem. It’s not like you’re saying to anyone “Well because she got engaged now I need to do it too,” and your BF is right, stop putting off your life for everyone else! You deserve happiness too, so don’t stress about it
Post # 18
I do understand why you’re worried…my twin sister got engaged 2 years ago (still not married)…when I got engaged (december) and set my date (3 months before hers, but last I heard she was pushing it back a year, but is now not), my sister had a cow….so I do understand where you’re coming from…
My suggestion? Do what YOU want…..live YOUR life and if she can’t be happy for you that’s her problem….just remember, you’re not getting having just a wedding, you’re preparing for a marriage, and THAT’S the important part….
Post # 19
Well guys I just got “the” call from my sister. She wants me to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man. I graciously accepted (and of course my siblings will be in my wedding too) and she immediately began to bounce wedding ideas off of me. I think she was a little caught off guard about how much wedding stuff I knew (I wasn’t planning for anyone, per se, but I had started looking… CURSE YOU PINTREST!) so perhaps she suspects that my own engagement might not be far off. She wants me to come down next weekend and I told her I had already had plans with my BF, and that we’ve had them for a while so I would hate to cancel, but that I would be down soon!
Again, I tried to preface it with “we’d been planning for a while” so it isn’t like this is a spur of the moment trip. She is so excited and I am starting to feel guilty, but I think that we’re just gonna have to do this. Besides, it is the GUY making the call of when to propose.
Post # 20
Oh…. excuse me not Bridesmaid or Best Man… THE MoH!!!!!!
Post # 21
I agree with the PPs, this is your life and you shouldn’t put it on hold for anyone! People that love you will be happy and excited for you. Please don’t feel bad…..let your BF plan the proposal that you deserve and enjoy every second of this time in your life. You don’t need to give anyone excuses or explanations.