(Closed) In Sickness and in health…

posted 6 years ago in Wellness
Post # 3
320 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Oh my goodness!Frown

So sorry to hear this…sending many hugs your way!

Post # 4
405 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Aw hun I’m so sorry!  But I totally know what you are going through (cause I have UC as well) and I must say it can get better once you figure out what triggers it.

I never eat dairy anymore cause I found that really screws me up.  I really miss icecream and cheese though ๐Ÿ™  *BUT* they do make plenty of lactose free versions of all that stuff.  I use Lactaid brand for milk, icecream, cottage cheese, and Smartbeat makes some tasty sliced cheese.  I’ve also found that shredded rice cheese is pretty good and melts well.  Then I use Tofutti for sour cream and cream cheese.  Look in the vegetarian section of your stores and hopefully you’ll find them!  Just play around with recipes and try new things and you’ll get used to it.  I made some killer baked ziti the other day with cottage cheese and shredded mozzerella rice cheese!

If you have any questions, feel free to PM me.  I’ve had UC for about 6 years now.

It does stink (no pun intended!) when you try to be a sexy wife but then you are in the bathroom all the time.  Ha, but like you said, in sickness and in health!

Post # 5
2073 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

You have my sympathies.  I have Crohn’s disease and it is definitely no fun.  I was super sick for a long time and had tried a ton of different immuosuppressant drugs for years before I finally found one that worked for me.  Prednisone is no joke.  The worst is that it makes you hungry all the time but your diet is so restricted that there is not much you can eat.  Rice, applesause and ground turkey get really old after a while.  

I promise it will get better.  It may seem dauting to have to go for infusions every 6-8 weeks but trust me, if it makes you feel better, you’ll be willing to go daily if that’s what will help.  I was very upset that I had to give myself injections every two weeks but I’ve been healthy for a year so I tell myself I’d do it everyday if I had to.  

Once you are healthy, you’ll start to feel like a normal person again.  Feel free to PM me if you need to vent.  My mom has UC too.  It’s no fun when your life is ruled by something as unsexy as poop.  Glad to hear that your hubby is supportive.  That makes a huge difference.

Post # 6
5655 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011


My Mother-In-Law has ulcerative coilitis. =(

Have you considered also seeing a chiropractor? I didn’t know until I went  but the lumber & sacral part of the spine actually cover nerves that affect the digestive system. Colitis was actually on the list of “symptoms” of being out of alignment.

I’m sure you’re exhausted with doctors & meds, but thought I should suggest that b/c if it can help then YAY!… if not then atleast you tried something not so invasive as tons of meds?…

Ugh.. sorry you’re going through all this I really hope they can help get it under control soon!

Post # 8
5405 posts
Bee Keeper

I am not yet engaged, but I have also had an experience with illness. I’ve been sick for the last 4 years, and was diagnosed with lyme disease about 2 years ago. My illness is very different than yours, but I can definitely understand the struggles. My boyfriend has been so incredibly supportive. We live together, and he helps with everything from laundry to dishes to helping me with whatever I need.

I wanted to recommend to you and anyone else interested to read the book “accidental cure” by Dr. Simon Yu. If you want any information about him (he is my doctor currently), PM me. But I highly recommend reading the book to understand his treatment philosophy.

Post # 9
317 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

CTbride2010, I can totally relate, although my illness is totally different.  A year and a half into my marriage, I got diagnosed with stage 3 breast cancer.  When we vowed “in sickness and in health”, I thought it would be when we were in our 60’s or something, not at my age of 33! I’ve had some pretty dark days in my illness where I told my husband that he should divorce me and find someone healthier, but he has stuck by me no matter what.  I knew when I got married that my husband is an incredible guy, but you don’t really know just how incredible your husband is until he’s taking care of you (and the house!) while you’re sick!  But like you, I know that this will make us stronger. 

Best of luck to you in your own health struggles!


Post # 10
1572 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m getting married in less than two months and have been sick for a number of years (so nothing new unless you count the ovarian cysts I’m dealing w/ currently… and while it’s a new bout of them, those aren’t even really new). I have some chronic health issues (including lupus), so like yours (unfortunately) it’s not going away. I will say that I was married before, and he was an utter jerk about my health issues – he made me realize that I would be okay being single for the rest of my life. My partner happens to be a nurse, which happens to come in handy for us. It’s how he knew in August when I lost feeling in one arm to go straight to the emergency department. He’s awesome at knowing when I need to go to the ED, and we have a whole routine. He’s great in an emergency and also just all-around great. He helps take care of me.

Post # 11
13 posts
  • Wedding: July 2014

I know this is a REALLY old post, but just wanted to tell you that you aren’t alone!

My illness flared up right after we got engaged — it got so bad at one point that we postponed our planning altogether. Things got really scary for awhile with complete weakness and major weight loss for me also.

Its still not great, and can’t get a proper diagnosis but likely celiac and a gut infection. The inflammation is crazy for me too, and we’re re-evaluating how we’re going to have our wedding, as I too, cannot eat much of anything. Rice, chicken and carrots. 

I hope your flare has eased somewhat, take good care!

Post # 13
13 posts
  • Wedding: July 2014

@CTbride2010:  Just signed in after a LOOONG break and saw your message and wanted to respond. I couldn’t bear to come here for awhile, because we had to cancel our original date (July 12 2012) due to ongoing sickness. I’m pleased to report that things seem to finally be under control and we’re planning for July 26th 2014. Hope you are still well. Take good care CTbride!

Post # 15
916 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012



For H and I, we both struggle with mental illnesses and he is autistic so I sometimes forget simple things about that because he is high functioning. The whole reason we became friends was because we kind of bonded over some of those shared experiences with depression and stuff so it makes us really easy to relate to one another even if some of the things we have are different. We also both experience PTSD and anxiety.

Post # 16
13 posts
  • Wedding: July 2014

@CTbride2010:  YAY! Oh I’m so excited for you. I wish you lots ond LOTS of luck and baby dust in your TTC journey. I am looking forward to that next summer after the wedding too. Hopefully the health will not interfere on those plans for either of us.

I most definitely am enjoying the planning so far, just trying to take it easy and not stress out about it. Take good care CT! ๐Ÿ™‚ xo

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