- 4 years ago
- Wedding: April 2014
I’m recently married and spent a lot of time on Weddingbee when planning my wedding, it was awesome reading about people and weddings from all over the globe! Of all the posts I thought I would write to add to to the boards however I never thought this would be my first but I really want to share my story as it has really made me appreciate life, my husband and the meaning of marriage.
8 weeks to the day before my wedding I was at a bridesmaid dress fitting with my Mam and 2 bridesmaids and I was 100% absorbed in my wedding plans…and I loved it! That was until I got a phonecall that literally brought my to my knees – my now husband had had a climbing accident at a local indoor climbing wall. My life completely changed in that one moment. I somehow managed to drive to the local hospital to meet him arriving there via ambulance, all the while not knowing any of his injuries, his condition or anything. Needless to say it wasn’t good news and he had been taken into emergency surgery to stabilise his injuries.
I realised in the horrendous 10hr wait I had before I could see him how much of life I was taking for granted. I had been getting upset about the band we wanted not being able to play at our wedding and here I was thinking ‘If he survives I would dance to a phone ringtone for our first dance!’ I had been plodding through life just thinking that getting married was a guarantee because I had the ring on my finger, that growing old together was a guarantee because we’d talked so much about it. And yet here I was praying to God to let us have just one more day together and it felt so surreal. Eventually I was able to see my husband after surgery to repair his leg/foot and seeing him for that first time just made me realise the meaning of marriage and spending your life together, however long that may be. If I had had my way the wedding would have been postponed as he was in a really bad way and I wanted to just focus on him and his recovery. One of the first things he said to me, even in his drugged-up state, however was ‘the wedding is still going ahead you know. I’m going to marry you’. Thankfully he is a lot more stubborn than I am so here we are married, and it was a fantastic celebration of our marriage but also his tenacity!
Trying to finish planning the wedding through all of this was in some ways really hard as I had to make decisions myself without his input but at the same time I had to prioritise and a lot of the finer details of a wedding which I had relished organising and planning just faded away, but it meant I could really enjoy the day with a new found gratitude that we were both actually there! We had made it! Looking back there are things which weren’t quite how I’d planned, projects I’d missed out but I said to my hubby in hospital that I would marry him right there and then, wearing a black bag if I had to! So anything better than that was just an added bonus to the day really!
Anyway, I really did want to pass on my sense of gratitude to you all – I’m not saying that the finer details of a wedding aren’t important as I LOVE them! I’m just encouraging you all to take a moment to be thankful for today, for your husband or wife and to feel that sense of gratitude that you have been given the opportunity in life to enjoy all of the details of your wedding, big or small 🙂 It really does make your day that much better!