(Closed) in sight on eloping halfway through planning…..

posted 6 years ago in Elopement
Post # 3
334 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I know how you feel – one of my bridesmaids eloped a couple weeks ago and it just sounded so lovely…  I’ve seriously considered just having a quick elopment so we could be married already!  So much less stress, no worries about being the center of attention, no bridesmaids to wrangle into place.  Even losing the deposits we’ve put down would still be cheaper than the remaining balance we have yet to pay out.

But then I remember how much it means to my family, our parents, and us to have everyone gathered around us, watching us say our vows.  I think about the pictures we’ll have of our gorgeous venue, and how all the frustration and planning will be worth it when it all comes together. 

So I can’t really offer you any practical advice – just my opinion that for *us* we’d miss having the wedding we’re planning.

Post # 4
300 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I totally understand. Now that I’m halfway through planning (and also have close to $6K invested and A LOT more to go) eloping looks better and better. Everyone keeps telling me it’s all worth it when the day comes though so I just hope that’s true!!

Post # 5
7293 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think completeing the work neccesary for the groupon wedding, is probably less work overall than a regular wedding 😉

There are a ton of great eloping packages and stuff! Go for it!

Post # 6
595 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

What about if you eloped to a destination within the U.S.? Looking at Groupon right now I see deals to New Mexico, Oregon, Vermont, Maine, Florida, South Carolina, Texas and Wyoming. Doing something domestically might make the license process easier.

That being said, would your family be hurt if you didn’t have a traditional wedding?

Post # 8
1917 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I’ve certainly considered this option many times, but ultimately I won’t really feel like I am married unless I am able to celebrate with all of my family and a big feast.  Every major moment in my life has been celebrated with both of those things and I can’t imagine getting married any other way.

I think it really depends how close you are to your family.  Lots of our guests have already bought plane tickets, booked their hotels and purchased an outfit.  I would feel horrible if I just eloped and they were out all that money too.

Post # 9
595 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Could your immediate family be present along with the friends for the elopment wedding? Then, if you wanted, you could have a small “Hooray, we’re married party” when you return?

Post # 10
2580 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

As someone who was really stressed out leading up to my wedding, I totally get where you’re coming from. On the other hand, though, I think you still have plenty of time to make adjustments to fit your budget and to get everything into place by May–for me, I don’t think I could walk away from $6k worth of deposits and headaches already spent planning. The elopement may cost more than you’re expecting with all that goes into it, it might not be that much less expensive than the $2k you owe on your wedding.

I stressed endlessly, but I thought the wedding was worth it in the end. There were so many times while planning that I said, “We should have just eloped!” but in the end, I am so glad we had the wedding and celebrated with our friends and family.

Of course, you’ve got to do what’s right for you! I think it is something to weigh carefully with all of the factors and not make a quick decision out of frustration with the process. Good luck with whatever you decide!


Post # 12
233 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I would continue with the regular wedding.  I know it’s stressful and to be honest I’ve entertained the eloping idea as well (usually out of frustration!), but remember that it’s going to be a special day with all your friends and family there.  🙂  Not everything has to be perfect… just being there with family is enough so don’t worry so much about all the little details.

Save the trip for the two of you for your honeymoon!  I’m actually convinced that the honeymoon is less a romantic endeavor as it is a destressing thank-god-it’s-over vacation.  😀

Post # 13
5 posts
  • Wedding: December 2012

We’ve been talking about packing up a few friends and heading to Vegas for fun. I don’t know how I feel about that but it sounds better than the headache and expense that our current ideas of a wedding would be. 


We just had friends do a desitnation wedding at a Sandals (I think) resort in Jamaica. It was about $550 per person PLUS airfare, but they let their guests know a year in advance so everyone was able to save up for what was about $2k total.


The only drawbacks are of course family getting offended at the elopement, not having all of your friends/family there with you if they can’t afford it.


On the other hand, buy a nice dress and have enough guests come to a resort and MOST couples get THEIR room comped. I think resorts are all-inclusive too, so you could have your wedding and everyone split up after for their own vacation while you and your honey have your own fun.


Good luck!

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