Post # 1
Our wedding is June 19th. There is a possibility of the NBA Finals game 7 ending up on our wedding day(We are from Cleveland so it is a big deal here). I was asked by one of the groomsmens wives about a week ago if we were planning on having a TV at the wedding for people to watch the game. My Fiance and I are mostly paying for the wedding ourselves and it’s not cheap, so even though my Fiance is a big sports fan, we felt like we would not want people to be crowded around a bar watching the game while we are paying for a photobooth, and DJ, I explained that to the groomsmens wife (who is also a friend of mine) at the the time she asked. I got a txt message from her this morning again asking the same thing. I explained once again to her that we would not and my reasoning for it, but added that we would ask the DJ to announce the scores when appropriate. She then respondedby saying that she had to be honest with me and that if we did not have a TV people would be leaving our wedding to go watch the game. I am in tears, I feel backed into a corner. Either we have a TV and all of FI’s friends will be crowded around the bar the entire time (they are all HUGE sports fans) or apparently they will leave. I don’t mind people checking their phones but I know Fiance friends, they will sit in front of the tv the whole time and watch the game if we were to have a tv by the bar. I’ve put SO much time and effort into this wedding, I am SO upset and have no idea what to do, I thought the DJ announcing the scores was a good compromise but apparently it’s not good enough.
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Post # 2
First, I think your friend is reaching a little bit, I don’t think people will leave your wedding but they might be checking their phones.
Second, I think that you could turn this into a fun part of your wedding. Having the DJ announce the score periodically could be fun and it’s a way to keep people involved in your wedding while keeping them up to date on the game. (EDIT – sorry, I misread, you’re going to do this. I think it’s awesome and again your friend is overreacting and I think this is a great compromise).
DH is a HUGE hockey fan. His team sucks, but if they’d been in the playoffs and had a game the day of our wedding we probably would have found a way to have the game streamed on a screen somewhere or at least had the DJ announcing the score, but DH and his friends aren’t big dancers (they spent most of the reception outside hanging out which was totally fine).
It might not be your exact vision but IF the Cavs are in a game 7 final it could be a fun addition to your wedding fesitivites – but here’s hoping they win it all before that!
Post # 3
maybe cut the photo booth or dj?
or don’t. But whoever leaves early take note and cut them out after the wedding. That’s so incredibly rude of her to ask.
Also the Warriors will win in six games or fewer so don’t fret 😘
Post # 4
I’m sorry you are going through this.
I’m going through something similar. The largest music festival in our state is the weekend of our wedding, and the headliner performs the night of our wedding. FI’s groomsmen are mostly members of his band that he plays in (and REALLY BIG into music–shows, festivals, you name it), and one of them made the comment to Fiance that he was “really p**** that he could not go to the headliner show, and could we please move our wedding? Because our wedding is over his favorite band and maybe it is a sign that we should not be together.”
Needless to say, I’ve lost all respect for this individual. I have not confronted him directly, because I’m not one to continue on drama, but I just want to tell him to f*** off. FI, who consideres him one of his best friends, is getting married, he’s been asked to be a groomsman and stand beside his best friend on the most important day of his life.
We’re both too passive to kick him out of our wedding.
My opinion (and best advice I got from FI’s sister): people will self-regulate. The people who truly care about you as a couple will come to your wedding and forgo the game. The people who don’t care about you as much MAY say no to the invitation. This is okay. It really tells you who your true friends are, and who is not.
Also, can’t they watch it on their cell phone? I would NOT have a bar-like atmosphere with a big TV. You know where all the dudes would end up, and probably some of their wives/girlfriends/etc. would not be happy with them all crowding around a TV and cheering on a game during a special moment in someone’s life who considered them close enough friends to attend their special day.
Post # 5
I also think that having the DJ announce the scores could be a good compromise. Maybe find a fun way to make it into a wedding game? Guests divide up into sides, and whichever side wins gets a prize?
Post # 6
The Warriors will likely win before than point anyways..
And, your ‘friend’ is rude. Its 2015, check your phone and enjoy the wedding.
Post # 7
I’m not a sports fan at all, so I don’t quite understand the dedication to watching games and what-not. But can you ask your friend if you recording the game, and then replaying it on a large tv screen after the reception will be a good compromise?
For example, I would just make watching the game as an after party. It might cost a little more, but I don’t think it will be too much money. I don’t know what your venue is like, but if there’s a bar, ask if the venue can keep the bar open later. Order some wings, pizza, and beer. Make it part of your event.
Or you can just bring in a bunch of your guests into your wedding suite (if applicable) and play the game there. If it’s in your room, it might be less expensive to have a local place cater some food. It’ll be more intimate and if your photographer is still there by that time, I think there would be some amazing pictures.
Post # 8
This is beyond stupid. If people are going to choose crowding around a TV screen versus watching the biggest moment of your and FI’s life – they’re not true friends anyways. I would have the DJ announce the scores and that’s it. This woman is unbelievably rude to say what she said – please just try to ignore it and focus on your lovely wedding!
Post # 9
I was a bridesmaid in a wedding last Saturday. The Blackhawks were playing game 2 in the Stanley Cup Finals vs the Lightening. My friend’s now-husband and his friends are all huge hockey fans (they also played hockey in high school/college so they’re more like maniac fans) and she faced a similar problem.
Their wedding was at a country club so while they’re wasn’t a tv in the main room where the reception was at, there was one in the restaurant/bar area. There were a ton of people (including the groom and his groomsmen, and me ) that kept going to the bar, watch the game for a few minutes, then go back to the reception room. The rooms were very close to each other so it was easy for us to go back and forth.
The bride was not happy, but what could she do? It wasn’t like the guests missed dinner or the first dance or anything “major”. And it also wasn’t like anyone was standing there for hours watching the entire game.
I honestly think if you don’t have something people will leave. But I would wait until it gets closer to the date because you could be stressed about nothing.
Post # 10
Fiance and I are big sports fan and purposely picked a wedding date that doesn’t coincide with any big sporting events. so I can understand why this is upsetting to you. 1) the Warriors will win before game 7 anyway so don’t waste your tears on this remote possibility and 2) I think setting up a TV would be fine! Leave it on mute and in the background. Sure there will be a few people who stand in front of the TV but that will be better than everyone staring at their phones, wishing they were watching the game. And remember that the game doesn’t start til 8-9pm so that’s mingling/dancing time anyway. I think a TV would add to the ambiance of the party. Not like it will interfere with the ceremony, dinner, and toasts.
Post # 11
Thank you ladies,
I think I am going to stick to my guns and have the DJ announce the scores. I feel like that is a good compromise.
I am also upset that she felt it was her place to bring this up or to push it, 7 days out from my wedding this is not something I want to be dealing with
Post # 12
I am a HUGE Ohio State fan, and a lot of my friends are as well. That being said, thinking back to this last bowl game, I definitely wouldn’t have left early. IF I had, it would have probably been at the very start of the 4th quarter. I know basketball games are shorter than football games, but the game isn’t even until 9. What time is your reception going to? I would think that if people left, it wouldn’t be until at least 11:00. No one needs to watch the entire game.
You could also compromise in a different way. Get a TV, give control of it to a very burly bartender, and tell your guests you’ll all be watching the last five minutes together. That’s it. Full stop.
Post # 13
I will cheer extra hard for the Warriors for you. Your “friend” is obnoxious for bothering you about this.
Post # 14
You can’t really control what people do. I don’t know what your venue is like, if there is an option to have a screen on the dance floor to play the game if its going to be a big enough deal that people will actually LEAVE to watch the Game. But you can’t force them to stay, if it’s important to them to watch it. I know you didn’t plan for the nights to overlap, but would you rather people decline or not show just to watch the game?
My husband is a die hard Lebron James fan, and Has been following his career since they were 16, and I can’t see him leaving/missing a wedding to watch the game… He may sneak away and watch highlights on his phone and probably PVR the game and leave early-ish (let’s say 11 or 12) to watch it before going to bed that night. A PP said cut people out so leave early because it’s rude… people leave weddings early all of the time, so you can’t really ask each and every person why they’re leaving.
Even so, I would assume people will be sneaking away to watch on their phones or check up on highlights. If the Cavs win your wedding will probably become one hell of a party though 🙂
haha considering there has to be 6 games, I doubt they’ll win in less than six! Unfortunately… No one played great last night, so or can still go either way… But Im still holding out for Cav’s in 6!
Post # 15
At first when I read the title I’ll be honest I was going to assume you were pregnant and hormonal to be emotional over something so stupid.
I get it. Fi is a HUGE sports fan, so I understand. But, like PP said I don’t think people will be looking for TV’s. They will be checking their phones, hello, ESPN Sports Net app, tell them to download it. Good Grief.
Hope it gets better!