(Closed) In tears over the NBA final game possibly being on our wedding.

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 16
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Sugar bee

I posted this on the ridiculous guest request thread, yesterday:

My family was invited to a fall wedding, in a southern university town, where they live and breathe football. The wedding had to be held during an away game weekend, or the town and hotels would have been packed with fans. The reception was held in large room, but there were other rooms, in the venue. At some point during the night, a bunch of the men discovered they could gain access to a room with a TV, rather than just check the score on their phones. (I guess the DJ announcing the scores wasn’t enough?)

After that point, the number of people at the reception certainly decreased; the men had comandeered the room with the TV, but conveniently kept going back and forth, to the open bar. The mother of the bride was pissed. (I’m guessing some of the food was wasted, too, unless it was halftime, when it was served).

P.S. I agree with P.P., although I do have friends in Cleveland. GSW in 6 

 

 

Post # 17
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2015

Ok I’m sorry but what?!? Someone actually had the audacity to ask you if there will be a TV on at your WEDDING? I’m angry for you. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I thought your compromise of having the DJ announce the scores was a good one. 

Honestly, if people are going to be such big babies about missing a freaking basketball game then they have serious issues. That’s why they make DVRs. I would never miss a wedding because my favorite show was on that night. I’m sure most, if not all, the guests have cell phones and they can check the scores periodically. 

I know exactly what I would do in this situation. I’m not sure what time the game would be on and what your timeline looks like, but have a TV there. Have it turned on halfway through the game for the less important parts of your reception (dinner, dancing other than the important dances) and then when the important parts come up (cake cutting, bridal dances, first dance, father-daughter dance, etc.) have the TV turned off and have the venue announce they’re having “technical difficulties” with the TV. BUT – this part is important – try to plan it so that the “technical difficulties” happen near the end of the game. Like maybe with a half hour to an hour left. Have the venue say they’re working hard to fifure out what’s wrong. This way, no one will leave to watch the game because by the time they get home, it’ll be over. They won’t leave immediately if they think the venue is working on the problem so after the TV gets shut off, their attention would be back on you. 

Like I said, idk what time the game is on and how it conflicts with your timeline, but it’s something to consider. 

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

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JEmery:  My Fiance and his family are from Youngstown, so I totally get it. I think that area (from Pittsburgh to Cleveland in particular) is very focused on sports outcomes. 

In fact, I was at a wedding up there where the DJ announced HIGH SCHOOL football scores during the reception. Not college, not professional sports playoffs. Actual teenagers in pads three times their size.

Anyway, my first piece of advice would be to PRAY that the series doesn’t go seven games. πŸ™‚ 

My second would be that even if you don’t have a TV available at the venue, your guests WILL find a way to watch. One of my BMs was married in November during the college FB season and the were a ton of guests watching/streaming on their phones and several guests left to watch crucial games at bars. 

I may be biased because I got engaged at a sports tailgate, but there’s no way for a sporting event to steal your show. There’s a TON of cameraderie in fandom, and having a TV at the bar could actually break the ice between guests! Can you imagine celebrating Cleveland’s first sports championship in what seems like forever with your closest family and friends? It’d definitely be memorable!!

I’d say just go with it. And keep hoping the series doesn’t go seven games!! πŸ˜‰

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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JEmery:  Eek, that sucks. And it sucks that she asked. I actually had this same fear a few months ago, as my mom’s family are INSANE hockey fans, and I knew the Stanley Cup finals would be around the time of our wedding. Luckily, the Bruins (our hometown team) decided to suck this year, so it was a non-issue, but I get your concerns.

On one hand, you ABSOLUTELY should not change your wedding by having a TV there if you don’t want to. It’s a sports game, and your wedding is much more important (to you). I think having the DJ announce the scores is a good middle ground. Don’t let it stress you out too much, though!

At the same time, I think there will, inevitably, be guests who are watching the game on their phones or who may leave to watch some part of the game. I am a diehard Patriots fan, and it would be really, really hard for me to miss watching them play in the Super Bowl. Seriously, unless my sister or something was getting married, I’d find a way to watch at least some of the game.

I’m rooting for the Cavs, so I hope they win in game 6 for you!

Post # 20
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Honey Beekeeper

Your friend is a moron to stress you out over this so close to the wedding and so is anyone who would leave your wedding early. We also had a major game on the day of our wedding. It was no big deal, and nobody left early. I assure you there were big fans in attendance, too. We knew about the conflict, but it couldn’t be avoided. In any case, there’s always something. 

I would send this person the clear message, to be passed along if anyone asks her, that you will be hurt by and lose respect for anyone who does this. 

I wouldn’t change your plans or announce the score at all. If people want to check scores on a bathroom break, they have their phones. And they can always make the huge “sacrifice” to record it. 

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

You can always ask your DJ if he has a projector. If he does  maybe he can arrange for the game to be projected high on the wall or even the ceiling of the banquet hall, No volume of coarse.  Don’t forget to ask the hall if they have the channel available for you to use.

If you do this, no one will be crowded around a little TV. People who want to watch it can sit at there tables, walk around and dance while still watching the game. The DJ can still announce the score and everyone will be happy. The DJ probably won’t even charge you for the projector. But since you are low on funds If he does charge you just ask the grooms men for funds to rent it. They will happily chip in $20.00 each to have it. Then you can make a joke of how the groomsmen forced you into allowing the game to be played at your wedding! They rented a projector, so now you can all enjoy the game and my wedding πŸ™‚

 

Post # 22
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Yeah, it’s not going to game 7. Warriors will win in Cleveland in game 6 so you’ll just have butthurt guest. 

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Honestly, I wouldn’t have a tv there or even any announcements from the DJ. People can check their phones or record it and watch it later. Which is why I wouldn’t want the DJ announcing the score. If I had a game recording to watch later, I wouldn’t want to know the score. Besides, it’s your WEDDING, your guests will survive without watching the game live. 

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Maybe ask your friends maybe someone has access tp a projector from home or work. Boys who want to watch a game can be very thrifty, I am sure they will find one for you. By The Way: $500. seems steep I would call around other places for another quote. A lot of tent rental places rent them. My husband rents them all the time it Think he pays $75 from the DJ he rents from you shouldn’t pay no more then $150

Post # 26
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I think it is stupid people would leave because of a game, I do.  But, I am from the south and as I am sure you know SEC football is HUGE.  For my sister’s wedding they had to have a tv, for the groom included.  It was in a back room and people would go check and then come back.  I had to go tell people to not hang around there a few times (you could have one of your  bridesmaids be in charge of this) and while it was a little annoying, it wasn’t a huge deal.  I would hope, people would realize they are at a wedding, check it for a minute and then go back to the wedding.  But it is up to you πŸ™‚ I just wanted to give you an idea of what did happen when there was a tv at a wedding πŸ™‚

Post # 27
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State

I can understand your concern OP. At the same time, given the time of the game and what will most likely be going on in your reception (dancing) I could see myself and SO leaving if this kind of conflict came about. Mostly because we aren’t big dancers and most of what we care about sharing with the couple would be over at that point, like dinner, toasts, obvioulsy the ceremony which is the most important part, and all of the first dances. Once the dance floor opens up at weddings, we arent’ the type to stick around very long because it’s just not our cup of tea. We are crazy sports fans though so the choice of dancing or awkwardly standing\sitting around or saying our goodbyes aftg the importan parts of a wedding and then leaving to go watch a game of one of our teams would not be a tough choice for us. I could see if guests were choosing to leave or interrupt your ceremony, first dances, toasts, but if it’s the dancing portion of the night, people are free to leave when they see fit at that point. So I would just do what you said you were going to do and have the DJ announce the score updates periodically and just enjoy the wedding with those who wwant to enjoy tg with you.

Post # 28
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: City, State

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JEmery:  This happened with my mom’s cousin’s wedding. People will watch the game. While your wedding is super important to you, a championship for an underdog city that has never won anything means so much more to the average guest. (I am from Buffalo, I get how cool it would be to win a championship, but have no concept of making it to the playoffs).

If I were you, I would set up a TV at the bar. My rationale is that people will watch the game either on their phones or they will be angling to leave early. Would you rather people stay and have a memory of your wedding being awesome or to remember that they were doing their best to get out of there in a hurry? You will still have plenty of people dancing and having fun.

Post # 29
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Bumble Beekeeper

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KC-2722:  “The Warriors will likely win before than point anyways..”

Could I love you more? Could I? 

Gonna go with no. ♥

Post # 30
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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JEmery:  I don’t think you should worry about this. It’s way out of your control. If there is a bar with a TV at your venue, yes, some people will slip out to watch the game for a bit, check the score, etc. Your beautiful day will still go on, regardless of the game. Try not to fret.

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