(Closed) In tears over the NBA final game possibly being on our wedding.

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 31
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception/The Gallery

I totally feel for you. A good friend got married last fall in KC when the Royals were playing the World Series (for the first time since 1988!) and it was a HUGE deal here. 

At first she fought it. There was a TV on the lower level and people were watching the game down there after the toasts, etc. Then MOST people were down there watching the game. In the end, she allowed the game to be played on the projector screen in the venue (with the sound off) and the DJ playing. And you know what? Everyone came back up stairs, drank, danced, and watched the game. It ended up being a very fun atmosphere and nearly everyone stayed until the end. 

I guess the moral of the story is, try not to sweat it. And understand that people will be interested in the game, even during your wedding, you can’t help that. Try to make it part of the experience, if you can so that your guests have the best possible time because while the wedding is about you, you throw the party for your guests to enjoy as well. Good luck and enjoy, it’ll be an amazing day no matter what! 

Post # 32
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Helper bee

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JEmery:  First of all — breath! This series could be over in six and am SHOCKED that people would bring this up to you before they know that a game 7 is going to be played!

I had a similar experience as a guest when there was an important hockey playoff game happening for my team while I was attending a wedding.  I warned/joked with the bride that I might be compulsively checking my phone during the wedding reception.  She said (again jokingly), fine, as long as it wasn’t during the ceremony and I kept dramatic outbursts to a minimum. 

In this age of technology, people can even stream the game on their phones if they want to. Maybe the compromise would be to get some WiFi for them, but — and I say this as a serious sports fan myself — anyone who threatens to not be at your wedding because of a game, even a game 7 playoff game, doesn’t  deserve to be there. 

Post # 33
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

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JEmery:  Ummm ok, I am no sports fan so maybe I don’t “get it” but your friend is rude.

Post # 35
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Bumble bee

Unbelievable. I can’t blame you for being annoyed OP. 

I wouldn’t get the DJ to announce the scores at all. If it were my family, my parents would most likely PVR the game and watch it as soon as they got home and hope no one spoiled the outcome for them. I feel like announcing the scores will remind people the game is on and encourage people to leave and find a way to watch it.

Post # 36
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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JEmery:  I’m so sorry you’re going through this. We’re huge college football fans and so are all of our friends. Football season was never an option for our wedding. We’ve been to weddings during games and Fiance is on his phone checking updates the whole time. And he wasn’t alone. They’ll even check during the ceremony.

here’s the bottom line.. you and your Fiance have every right to not have a TV at the reception. And guests can do what they want and leave when they want. It’s an unfortunate and crappy situation. Some people don’t get the sports obsession, but you can’t just brush it off as silly when it is a big deal for other people. Have the wedding you want, I feel like most people will stay and just check on their phones, but you have to accept and be ok with the fact that they will be distracted or could even leave early. I’m sorry 🙁

Also, its ridiculous that this girl would hound you about it. That’s unacceptable and rude.

  • This reply was modified 6 years, 3 months ago by TXbride2015.
Post # 37
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

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JEmery:  I understand why your friend asked about the TV, there are just some people out there that won’t miss out on their favorite sport teams for anything. Last year I worked for a non profit in the South that held their annual gala in October during football season. People paid any where from $350 to $15,000 to attend this event and yes there were people who left to go watch football. Enough so that the gala committee discussed adding a room with a TV to next year’s event so that enough people would stay. I think it all boils down to would you prefer your guests stay and watch the game at the wedding or leave early? I shared this situation only because I wanted to show how people were willing to spend a lot of money to come to an event and not stay because of college football game. 

Post # 38
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Ok I am going to be completely different than what everyone else has said.  I am a sports fanatic.  Football season ticket holder, watch every 82 + games in an nhl season that my team plays, love World Series baseball.. My bridal shower is even going to be football themed.. 

 

i I would leave the wedding.  My fiancé would want to leave the wedding.  Any of my siblings would. any other rabid sports fan I know would.  Your friend, while stressing you out, is letting you know a reality.  Game 7s for your team, especially one in a city who’s a perennial loser, don’t come around often– or ever.   Even though it’d be a 9pm tip off, and I’m sure your reception ends at 10-11, if you don’t have the game on in some way, there could definitely be people will leave early.

 

 She’s being rude, but she’s trying to save you from being upset on your big day. 

Post # 39
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Blushing bee

As a HUGE hockey fan, and with my birthday always falling during the Stanley Cup finals so I alays incorporate a TV, I’ve learned an important lesson.  If you have a TV there and your team wins, everyone will be so excited, yay, best night ever.  If they lose and there is no TV (just the DJ annoucing the scores), people will be disappointed, but they’ll get over it quickly.  But if you have a TV there and people WATCH them lose (and I’m sorry but I think they will lose)…people will be sad and depressed.  It’s one thing to hear about a loss, but another thing to witness it!  I’ve had many a grumpy friend at my birthday party after we lost.  It really changes the atmosphere if you watch a game that doesn’t go in your favor.

I think you’re being perfectly accommodating by announcing the scores.  It’s your WEDDING.  People who love about you won’t mind missing the game, and they can always watch it later.

Post # 40
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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JEmery:  The yankees were in the world series when my cousin got married and we are from NY. There was a tv behind each bar and no one lingered there to look at it. Some people would check it while getting a drink and others would check their phones.

When theres other things going on such as music/food/alcohol, people aren’t that obsessed with a game.

You can play into it by the DJ/MC making comments throughout the night *if you really want to* like announcing the score and having the crowd toast to it, etc…

Post # 41
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Your “friend” is incredibly rude and selfish. I would NOT even have the DJ announce the scores. Why should some damn game be any part of your wedding? If grown ass adults can’t attend a wedding rather than watch a ball game, they don’t need to be there.

Post # 43
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

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slove: +1

yea, sorry, but I agree with slove on this.   This game, if it happens, is simply not comparable to any other game previously mentioned.  Clevelands sports history, and their undying love of their teams despite the losing history, is unique.  My dad was born and raised in Cleveland and his family is still there.  They would absolutely leave the wedding if there is not a TV there.  Yes your friend may have been rude, but she’s just being honest with you.  I would have a TV on silent at the very least.

Post # 44
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I saw a wedding once where they had a big chalkboard set up on one side of the room and every couple of minutes a groomsman would go and update the score on it. It was decorated really cute- said GAME DAY UPDATES and each team’s name was written in cursive. Fit in really well with their theme- maybe you could do the same?

Don’t be upset- people won’t leabe your wedding for the game, and if they do, eh they don’t sound like people you want there anyways! No stress! Try not to stress yourself out on your wedding day- the best thing I did was let everything roll off my back that day!!

Post # 45
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Okay so I’m going against the grain a bit with my comment buuuut I live in St. Louis and baseball is like life itself here. I have a friend who got married during the World Series a couple years ago when the Cardinals were in it and her reception start time was the same as game time. All of her guests showed to the ceremony but only half ended up coming to the reception. They did have the DJ announcing the score through the night, but I’m telling you St. Louisans bleed baseball, and no one wanted to miss that game.

 

I would not count your chickens before they hatch but I would definitely prepare to miss some guests if that does happen. Sorry to be a dark cloud, I just know this first hand.

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