(Closed) In tears… Remind me that it isn’t important…

posted 10 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
25 posts
  • Wedding: August 2008

At the end of the day all that really does matter is that you will be married to your fiance! Keep reminding yourself that as long as the officiant shows up (wherever you guys can hold it, if the original venue can’t work for some reason) and does his/her thing, then you guys are golden!

As for the rest, I can only imagine how frustrating and upsetting this must be for you. Is it at all possible to reschedule, given the circumstances? If you caterer is unable to deliver on the scheduled day, would they be willing to move it to a different day (I know this means that some out of town guests may no longer be able to make it, but sadly some things can’t always work out perfectly). 

A competent dry cleaner should be able to get your dress back to new (assuming it’s just mud and muck and stuff, and it wasn’t actually ripped — in which case, go to a seamstress and see if it can be salvaged!) Many brides roll around in mud and water in their gowns for Trash The Dress sessions, and have their gown restored right back to new condition by having them cleaned afterwards.

Losing the programs certainly sucks, but it’s likely not something your guests will miss terribly. Only a few people save them. The rest flip through them a bit, and then use them to fan themselves off (if it’s hot), or roll them around in their hands as a nervous habit. =)

For your decorations, I wonder if there’s another local bride you can find (maybe on here, or on Craigslist) who recently got married who you can either buy, rent or borrow her leftover wedding decorations from. If I lived near you, I’d be willing to let you use some of my stuff, given the circumstances!

Most of all, just take a deep breath, and realize that as long as nobody was hurt, the rest is just material. Nothing is stopping you from marrying the love of your life. You’re only delayed in throwing the big party! If now just wont work, then I suggest you get married, and then plan a recommitment ceremony, or 1 year anniversary celebration, or a whole new reception later on when the circumstances are more favorable. Tons of brides and grooms never get to have big, fancy weddings or even parties for their wedding, yet still have great marriages. So it’s not doomsday by any means!


Post # 4
117 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2008 - United Methodist Cathedral & historic downtown hotel in Cleveland


That’s a really horrible situation.  First, it’s okay to be completely upset and disappointed.  Is your dress beyond repair, or would taking it to the dry cleaner’s (assuming one is open) work?  Or would it be possible to order another dress online?  

You said that water might come back on next week.  Your wedding is in a week and a half.  So there is a really good chance that your caterer will have water to prepare the necessary food.

Programs can be reprinted fairly easily at a Kinko’s or another copy place; you also have option of printing things online very cheaply.

If you have homeowner’s or renter’s insurance, you should be able to be reimbursed for the items (wedding stuff included!) that were damaged.

Post # 5
217 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

Can we do anything to help?  My wedding isn’t until August and most of my wedding stuff isn’t finished or isn’t with me – but I do have my ring bearer pillow in my apartment, was that damaged, I could mail that to you for you to borrow.  Any people who work at a printer reading this – maybe donate printing services to reprint the programs?  Is your dress wearable?  I had a friend who wore her cousins dress when she couldn’t get one – do you have any siblings, cousins, friends who were recently married who can loan you their dresses.  Anyone have decor in their home they could share?  What type of decor are you looking for.  The food is tricky… Are you going on a honeymoon?  Maybe make the best of your reception situation – but when you are on your honeymoon splurge on amazing food for you and your new hubbie – or get the elopement package and have two weddings!  Or bring your dress with you and find a photographer to take wedding pics on the honeymoon when it is sunny and not raining…  I’m just brainstorming.  You have every right to be very disappointed.  I am glad that you and your Fiance are safe and I wish you the best of luck!

Post # 6
55 posts
Worker bee

i can print programs – i work in an office with a pretty high quality printer, just tell me what they need to say!  PM me, i want to help!

Post # 7
367 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I’m in southern MN, so I definitely understand all the rain we’ve gotten lately!  Enmoore66 is right, is there anything we can do to help?  I’m not sure where in Iowa you live, but I live in Rochester, so we’ve got a Michael’s and Hobby Lobby here, I could check around for decorations and such and they usually ahve fairly good deals. 

We always think of rain on our wedding days, but never really before and what consequences it could have, and this spring has been ridiculous!  We all feel for you and wish you the best with everything.  Stay as optimistic as possible and as the others above, remember that at the end of the day you will still be married to the love of your life!!

Post # 8
41 posts

Like everyone about, my heart goes out to you.  Times are tough right now but I think you’ll pull through just fine.  All your wedding decor may be ruined but you and your family is safe and that’s really all that matters. 

Plus, imagine what stories you can tell your children later on when they are getting married and whining about their wedding.  I can just hear it now:  "You’re upset about a typo on the programs, you’re just lucky to have programs" 🙂  I jest, but really, in light of the situation, I think your wedding could be a good excuse to bring some cheer into everyone’s lives.     

Post # 9
25 posts

Hi empyle,
I PMed you to offer letterpress printing and my dress. I am a former Iowan so my heart goes out to you girl!

Post # 10
44 posts

Hang in there! I am really sorry to hear about the flooding. i think everyone posted some good ideas about getting the dress cleaned and borrowing decorations.

 If possible, make a post about your wedding colors, and what all you need. That way people can possibly help you easier!


Post # 11
2 posts
  • Wedding: December 1969

awwwww, I am sooooo sorry!!!!! I am in Omaha so I know the rain we have been getting.  But everything will work out.  If you seriously need anything, I’m not too far away. Just let me know!!


Post # 12
86 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

My heart goes out to you, i can understand where you are trying to make out of this situation a possitive one. Like other bees have said, you are getting married to THE one. Material stuff should not matter but it does, all our effort should not end like that. If there is anything we can do? Maybe we can help you with decorations? did you make your own decorations? I volounteer to redo some if you tell me  what and how to do them, then mail them out to you.


I know i’d appreciate it if i was in your shoes. So please! Let us know how we can help your day be like you dreamed of!



Post # 13
52 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

If you go on Nordstrom.com, they have some very nice wedding dresses and you can even get overnight shipping. they vary in price

Post # 14
133 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2008

Same as all those above, I’m so, so, so sorry.  I’m also an Iowa native, and just hearing from my family and people like yourself back home breaks my heart.

Seriously, let us know what we can do!

Post # 15
36 posts
  • Wedding: June 2008 - A garden wedding followed by a tented reception on Mr. Hummingbird's father's property.

Aw! That sucks, hun, I am very sorry to hear. 🙁
Just to ease your mind a bit about the programs/decorations – people who are coming to your wedding are coming to see you and your fiance get married because they love and support you. If you don’t have a bunch of decor or pieces of paper that announce your ceremony, they won’t judge you for it.
As for the dress, like someone said, see if you can’t bring it to the cleaners. If they can’t fix it, Nordstrom’s might be a good choice or if you want something more bridally, maybe see if the bridal salon you bought your dress from might let you borrow a gently worn sample for the day. Especially if they’re local, they might give you a hand.
Best of luck with everything and let us know how it all turns out. I’m rooting for you up here in Canada.

Post # 16
14 posts

I’m so so sorry and cannot even imagine the stress and anxiety you are going through right now.  As so many others have said, what really matters is getting married to the one but I’m sure you have put so much into this once in a lifetime event that it might be hard to get that perspective right now.  Target.com has some very very lovely simple dresses for not too much and I’m great with MS Publisher so PM me if you need program assistance!!

My thoughts and prayers go out to you.  Everything will work out!!

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