(Closed) In tears – wedding in 2 weeks turing into utter disaster

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
1074 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I’m going to be having a Destination Wedding too, but not because it’s warm or pretty or anything, but because literally neither of our families or friends are in the same states. So we’re making everyone travel to Cali. All 60 of them.

I was told to expect maybe 50% of that initial number. It is expensive and while I’m sure they love you, they honestly have very good reasons not to go.

Those who make it, you need to make this fabulous for them and YOU. Who cares about the lower number. Less plates to buy, right?

Everything will be ok. Is there any way to ask the venue to get a smaller space so it’s more intimate and the room doesn’t look as empty? That’s my only suggestion. I had a friend who rented a huge space thinking 100 people were going to show up, but only 40 did. So the place felt really empty. And awkward.

Post # 5
8579 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’m so sorry, this sounds like a nightmare!


Anytime there there is airfare & overnight accomodations involved, it starts getting a little sticky. There are alot of reasons why people can’t always make it, although it doesn’t make us feel any better when it happens!


I understand you being upset, and you wanting your family being there, but at the end of your wedding night, you’ll be MARRIED! The whole point of the wedding! Just try to keep your mind on your wonderful fi and the family that could attend.


Post # 6
502 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

That is disappointing and I can understand why you are sad, but try to think about what the day is all about. You are getting married! Forget about all the other stuff and just concentrate on the fact that you are marrying your partner, that’s the main thing. Chin up, take it all in your stride and enjoy your big day regardless of all the other stuff.

Post # 7
338 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

So sorry to hear thats all I can do is give you a BIG HUG!! Do your best to focus on the day and on marrying your other half that’s the most important thing at the end of the day!!

Post # 8
1876 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Just breathe and try to enjoy you wedding. You are having an intimate Destination Wedding for a reason right? It’ll be beautiful. You can celebrate with your family when you guys get back. 


And btw – the airlines rule isn’t stupid. A newborn should NOT under any circumstance be on an airplane. They could contact one of any number of germs and fall dealthy ill. Also, the air pressure could hurt them severly. A two week old really shouln’t even leave the house yet. I know you are bummed, but try not to let your dissapointment cloud your thinking. 

Post # 9
263 posts
Helper bee

Think of all those times you wanted to elope and say – wow, this is kind of like eloping but better, because TWENTY of my friends and family will come along. How amazing! Flip it around – look at the positive. And now you’ll have time to spend with each one of them and there are new and fun things that are possibilities…

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