Post # 1
I’ve posted on here previous about some wedding issues, but since have gotten worse and I’m almost at breaking point!
Well I’m getting married in less than 2 weeks – most of our guests are flying here from interstate. We originally planned for around 45 which would have been perfect, now we’re down to 20 :(:( so many have pulled out due to high costs which we do understand but its disapointing.
My brother and sister + their families cant make it, my sister in law to be and her husband now cant make it as she is pregnant with twins and is on bedrest due to complications. Now my other sister in law to be cant come as she was supposed to have a baby (yes another pregnant one!) a week ago, she is now overdue and will get induced next week HOWEVER the airlines for some stupid reason have a policy that a newborn under 2 weeks cant fly.
The sister in law with twins is only 24 weeks pregnant and has been told she may go anytime, so everyone is super worried & if she does go I’m not sure even my Mother-In-Law will come as she would want to stay with her daughter.
I am utterly devistated. We originally said as long as our family can come, we dont mind who cant make it.. but now a lot of those we love the most wont be there. If others hadnt already had flights etc booked we’d postpone, but now its not an option.
I just dont even know what to think.. I just want to cry. Its supposed to be the best day of our lives and I’m not even looking forward to it.. i just want it all to be over with nothing bad happening.
I feel so sorry for my sister in law, it would be extreamly difficult for them.. but its just put a huge downer on everything.. and if something does happen between now and our wedding with her babies, i dont think there will be much point having a wedding.
Sorry for the long rant.. I really needed to talk to someone who might understand. Of course I have my partner to talk to, but sometimes you need a fresh perspective!
Thanks anyone for reading 🙂
Post # 3
Oh and to top it all off, one of my bridesmaids pulled out already as she couldnt afford to come and my other bridesmaid is the sister in law who wont be able to fly with her newborn. No bridesmaids.. woo hoo
Post # 4
I’m going to be having a Destination Wedding too, but not because it’s warm or pretty or anything, but because literally neither of our families or friends are in the same states. So we’re making everyone travel to Cali. All 60 of them.
I was told to expect maybe 50% of that initial number. It is expensive and while I’m sure they love you, they honestly have very good reasons not to go.
Those who make it, you need to make this fabulous for them and YOU. Who cares about the lower number. Less plates to buy, right?
Everything will be ok. Is there any way to ask the venue to get a smaller space so it’s more intimate and the room doesn’t look as empty? That’s my only suggestion. I had a friend who rented a huge space thinking 100 people were going to show up, but only 40 did. So the place felt really empty. And awkward.
Post # 5
I’m so sorry, this sounds like a nightmare!
Anytime there there is airfare & overnight accomodations involved, it starts getting a little sticky. There are alot of reasons why people can’t always make it, although it doesn’t make us feel any better when it happens!
I understand you being upset, and you wanting your family being there, but at the end of your wedding night, you’ll be MARRIED! The whole point of the wedding! Just try to keep your mind on your wonderful fi and the family that could attend.
Post # 6
That is disappointing and I can understand why you are sad, but try to think about what the day is all about. You are getting married! Forget about all the other stuff and just concentrate on the fact that you are marrying your partner, that’s the main thing. Chin up, take it all in your stride and enjoy your big day regardless of all the other stuff.
Post # 7
So sorry to hear thats all I can do is give you a BIG HUG!! Do your best to focus on the day and on marrying your other half that’s the most important thing at the end of the day!!
Post # 8
Just breathe and try to enjoy you wedding. You are having an intimate Destination Wedding for a reason right? It’ll be beautiful. You can celebrate with your family when you guys get back.
And btw – the airlines rule isn’t stupid. A newborn should NOT under any circumstance be on an airplane. They could contact one of any number of germs and fall dealthy ill. Also, the air pressure could hurt them severly. A two week old really shouln’t even leave the house yet. I know you are bummed, but try not to let your dissapointment cloud your thinking.
Post # 9
Think of all those times you wanted to elope and say – wow, this is kind of like eloping but better, because TWENTY of my friends and family will come along. How amazing! Flip it around – look at the positive. And now you’ll have time to spend with each one of them and there are new and fun things that are possibilities…