- 9 years ago
- Wedding: August 2011
You guys sound like in every other way you have a wonderful, supportive, loving relationship and i think thats something to keep in the front of our minds. I agree with most of the Bees that this guy needs more time. I can completely see where you are coming from and am not saying that your position isnt justified, however you said
‘This morning: Said these exact words: “yes, if we stay together and keep getting along like this then I do see us ending up in marriage.” But I’m not there yet.’ Kind of a half ass response.’ – i think this is a little harsh, perhaps he is just trying to tell you how he feels. If he feels that his opinion isn’t considered, he’s more likely to feel you are forcing him into making a decision he’s not ready to make. And, given the history you have explained and his regret that he let his ex-wife do the very same thing, you will most likely lose what is otherwise a wonderful relationship and by his own admission will most likely end up a wonderful marriage.
I honestly think giving him a timeline would be a massive mistake, even though i realise you are frustrated – even telling him you wont move in with him before he agrees to marry you is putting massive pressure on the guy to propose. It would surely be better to deal with frustration now then marry someone who isn’t ready to make the same commitment, or worse lose that person because they feel pressured and that they aren’t able to make the decision in their own time.
I really hope everything works out!! I hope i haven’t sounded too harsh!