Post # 1
We are having a very small wedding and reception (no more than 35 guests). The venue is very small so there will be no DJ or dancing. There will also be no speeches, or traditional wedding festivities. We will say a few words to the groups but that’s it (and hanging with guests). I don’t mind but should I expect my guests to start leaving after dinner/drinks/dessert? The wedding will start at 5:30 with dinner to be served immediately after. It would be nice to have guests stay a while but I know it’s a lot to ask of people who are used to being externally entertained. My FI and I are “boring people” and can be entertained with very little. LOL
I know it’s hard to know but I would just like to get your immediate thoughts.
Post # 3
Personally I’d be ready to go after coffee, maybe even before if they’re taking too long to serve the coffee. Are you having any kind of background music?
Post # 4
I think most people will likely leave after dinner once they realize it’s pretty much over. I’m sure some family/people you don’t see often may stay a little but I wouldn’t expect too much with no music.
Post # 5
@Trixxie_90: There will be background music (iPod) and coffee. The coffee will be probably self served wtih an option to order espresso drinks (folks here drink coffee 24-7).
Post # 6
DH and I would totally hang out after dinner/dessert– especially with such an intimate group! We love to just sit and chat and catch up with family. The day is about celebrating with the couple, not being “externally entertained” 🙂
Post # 7
@CARA1978: The intimate atmosphere will definitely lend itself to a relaxed, amiable party. Some of my favourite parties/nights out were because of the amazing people I was with and the conversations we had. So, if the other guests are engaging and interesting, I would definitely stay. I am certain your guests will still enjoy each other’s company. 🙂
Post # 8
We’re having a similar reception. We’re having around 30 people and we rented out an entire restaurant… we have an open bar and we’re planning on having most people stay until we’re kicked out. I know as a guest at this kind of wedding I would stay around to talk and hang out. We’re all staying at the same hotel (the restaurant is in the hotel) so I think that will make it fun too.
Post # 9
If there was good conversation and a group of friends/family I hadn’t seen in a while, I’d stick around and chat. Is it a restaurant or an open venue where you are free to walk around and chat with different people? Is there an open bar? or at least A bar?
It’ll be “harder” to have people stick around without music/dancing/traditional wedding activities. But if guests are free to move around, chat with people they haven’t seen in a while, meet new people, etc. that might keep people engaged longer.Also, it’s a wedding. I’d like to think that guests understand that this is a special event and would stick around so long as the bride and groom are hanging out and having fun.
Post # 10
It would depend entirely on your guests. If they are used to the more common type of wedding with music and dance, than I would say probably not. Even if they are, from experience, there’s only so much mingling you can do before it gets, well, boring IMO.
I’ve only been to one wedding like that, one of DH’s cousins, and the family isn’t really the “dancing” type either. We stayed ’til closer to the end and that was already around 8-9pm and went to a bar. Mind you, weddings around here usually go ’til 1-2AM.
Post # 11
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
I would probably stay as long as I knew people there. If I didn’t, and I didn’t find anyone to talk to, I would leave.
To encourage people to stay, I suggest you spread out the courses a bit, unless you’re only having one course. I’d serve a larger appetizer at 6:30, main course at 7:15, dessert at 9
Post # 12
Personally we might stick around a bit but not too long. Likely Id be looking at my watch a lot while chatting. Probably enjoy my coffee and have a chat with a few people, then make my way to the bride and groom thank them for a lovely day and congratulate them before leaving. I’d probably be home, shoes off, makeup off and watching netflix by 830-9.
Post # 13
I think it may depend on your relationship to the guest and how many people they know there. If I was at the event with a lot of family, I would hang out and catch up with everyone. If I didn’t know too many people, I would probably cut out early. My friend had a wedding like this, and I didn’t know anyone else there. I left almost immediately after things started winding down.
Post # 14
@newlynesting: Ha ha! I wrote “externally entertained” because after joining the Bee I noticed a lot of weddings will have Djs, dancing, etc. I get the impression that your wedding will be a dud without it. That is just not our thing though. I love to dance, but he doesn’t so what’s the point?
@MlleFabuleux: I’m open to anything but that’s what I’m hoping for. The venue is lovely and the evening indoor lighting is very soft and relaxing.
@orchidaloha: People will be free to move about, there is also a patio people can hang out at (assuming its not raining).
@SkyChick: People will be free to move about for sure. There will be an open bar so that’s not an issue. There is also a patio but it will probably rain – its Portland and its raining NOW, LOL.
@CherryWaves: Thankfully the venue is literally around the corner from our place and there are 9 bars, pubs a a place to dance within just a few blocks. A LOT of bars here. We can also take cabs to other neighborhoods to party. If they want to go party, we can all do that.
I know late night weddings are typical but we don’t have the budget for all-night weddings or we would have done that.
Post # 15
@MeiFrancis: That’s an idea. I haven’t thought about spreading the courses out. Ill look into it.
@Trixxie_90: LOL! Sounds like my kind of night.
@angelalsmith3: That is true. If my aunt, uncle, cousins come it will be via road trip and they will either be too beat to stay or more willing to stay since they came hundreds of miles away. All of my family is from out of state so it will depend on how they feel. Then again, I don’t fully know if they are all coming – may of the guests will probably be from the local area and not really know each other.
Post # 16
Normally if there was no DJ or dancing I wouldn’t stay for more than an hour (max) past dinner. Are you having alcohol? I’m generally much more inclinded to stay and chat/linger with some wine. I also think if you have that small of a group (+wine) where people might be more connected with each other already they might stay longer. How long are you wanting people to stay?