- 6 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
So in two weeks my SO and I leave on vacation for 5 days. I’m trying not to get my hopes up, but the possibility of a proposal has crossed my mind.
Some back story: We’ve been together 4.5 years, living together for nearly 4, and we bought a house together 2 years ago. We have a great relationship and we both want to spend the rest of our lives together. That being said, my SO has not been in a big rush to get married. Part of it was his family background; part of it was the timing of him starting his own business right around the time we bought our house. He also (mistakenly) believed that I wanted a big diamond and he wouldn’t be able to afford it.
We had a long conversation 3 months ago about marriage and why I want to get married versus what’s holding him back. His big issue is money; he doesn’t want to go into debt but he doesn’t want me to compromise on what I want. I appreciate that; I also don’t want to go into debt. However, to me it’s about celebrating our love with friends and family, and we can do that without spending tons of money. I’m queen of DIY and finding bargains, so I’m not worried about making it work (plus, my sister got married on 50% of what SO and I are ok with spending–it can be done!)
It was a good conversation and we were able to clarify our expectations for each other. He didn’t give me a specific timeline, but gave me reason to think it would happen within the year. Overall I’ve been patient since then and we haven’t talked about it, other than discussing what kind of ring I wanted (which was also a revelation for him—I want an aquamarine, not a diamond, so it’s not going to be nearly as expensive as he thought).
Fast forward to a month ago. I was home alone and our mailman delivered a package that I needed to sign for. I was a little curious since the shipping charge on the label was $17.00 but the box wasn’t very big—only about the size of a softball, and extremely light. It crossed my mind that it might be a ring, but I didn’t want to get my hopes up. When SO came home, he told me it was a fishing reel. I didn’t believe this but I didn’t let on. My suspicions were confirmed a few days later, when he called and asked me to go on his computer and pull up something for him; when I did this, I saw an email with the subject heading “Order confirmation: Aquamarine and diamond ring…”
*Insert me flipping out while trying to play it cool on the phone so SO wouldn’t know I saw it (and no I didn’t open the email but wow did I ever want to!)*
Granted, just because he has a ring doesn’t mean he’s planning to propose immediately; however, I’m not really sure why he would buy it if he wasn’t planning to do it fairly soon. I’m trying to keep my excitement in check and just take comfort in the fact that he’s (FINALLY!) planning to do it. Which was working until I looked at the calendar today and realized how quickly vacation is coming. I’m starting to get nervous (in a good way) now that I’m realizing how close it is! Help me be patient, bees!