Post # 32
I definitely wanted to live with my SO before getting engaged, however I wouldn’t have moved in with him had we not talked about marriage and stuff down the line. For me, it happened just like I expected it to- moved in at about 1.5 years, got engaged at about 2.5 years, got married at about 3.5 years (apparently the month of September ended up being the magic month for us…).
Post # 33
I’m a fan of move in – get engaged – get married!
Theoretically I think it would be amazing to move in together after the wedding, but I know how hard it is to get used to living with someone… So living together first was a practicality thing for me!
Post # 34
- Wedding: February 2017 - Hagakyrkan
Yes, I think many people plan something but then life takes a different path 🙂 but life sure would be boring without any surprises 😉
My family is Italian on my fathers side (well he is Italian, and I too, only half as Italaian as him ;P) and Swedish (same here, mother is Swedish), so none of those cultures have very strict expectations on anything. Swedish people don’t really have any expectations on you, they accept any version you shose, and the Italian relatives are all over the place with crazy romantic love stories and elopings and pregnanciews here and there 🙂 that culture almost expects you to be a little wild and go for your dreams, and I personally thing I have recieved that gift from this isde of my family. I just say what i feel and think (oc with some thought to peoples feelings) and do as I wish. Me suddenly having babies now with a stranger wouldn’t surprise them more than me living in celibacy till I’m fourty the marriyng before kinds. Its a layd back culture that at the same time live off the drama in everybodies everyday life. AND I LOVE IT!
excuse my horrible spelling 😛 I’m on my phone
Post # 35
This is how I expected things to go:
move in – get engaged – marry
This is how things actually went:
decide to live together – finish university – choose a place to live together – get engaged while travelling – move in – marry!
So we already knew we were moving in together and where before we got engaged, but we got engaged a couple of weeks before actually moving in there. He knew that’s how it would go but it was a total surprise for me! I loved it though because it made me feel more comfortable setting up home together and having a joint bank account knowing we were both in it for life.
Post # 36
@HopefulCatlover: We started dating, got engaged, got married, and then moved in together. I wouldn’t have had it any other way but figure others will do what is best for them. Me and DH had no issues when we moved in together but I think that boiled down to our relationship experience. We went on vacations together and he lived with my family before he left for Air Foce Basic training (about three months). So we already knew what we were walking into. Living with him feels no different than when we were younger and hanging out after school. It is easy and I loved that we waited until we were married in order to get the joy that comes with moving in together.
Post # 37
I voted move in – get engaged – get married (flexible)
But our timeline was
2006 – start dating
2007 – move in together
2009 – got pregnant (on purpose), then engaged, had baby
2012 – got married
It worked for us. I could never imagine getting engaged to a person I hadn’t lived with before.
Post # 38
We got engaged, moved in, then got married. I wanted a committment before moving in with him, but didn’t need to wait until marriage.
Post # 39
We’ve lived together for 4 years now, just got engaged in November. Moving in together when we did saved us so much money!
Post # 40
almost exactly like us;)
was you baby in the wedding? Our son will be a little over a year and I want him at the wedding, just trying to figure out how that would work out
Post # 41
I am hoping for either Enagement -> Move In -> Marriage or Engagement -> Marriage -> Move In. Personally, I don’t think that moving in before engagement sets the relationship up in the way I would want it to be set up.
Post # 42
Realistically, we’ll probably move in together either right before we get married or immediately following.
Post # 43
Sure, of course. Our issues weren’t necessarily related to small things like laundry and how clean the house was. Rather, living together threw us together more often which meant I got to see a lot more of his personality, how he problem solved, etc. I realized that he had some MAJOR insecurities that I had never noticed before. For example, I was applying to schools at the same time as him. I was applying to more “elite” schools than he was… Before I moved in, he seemed supportive, but afterwards he would let little snide comments slip all the time while I was working on apps. Small things like that which actually turned into bigger issues later on.
Post # 44
First time around: got engaged, married, then moved in. Second time around: got engaged, moved in, then married. For myself, personally, I wanted the engagement before making the commitment of living together. FTR, I’ve only lived with two men, my first husband and my now husband.
Post # 45
I am a big believer in living together before getting married. You find out so much about someone when you live with them!
Out timeline was:
2004 – started dating
2008 – moved in together
2012 – got engaged
2013 – got married
Post # 46
We moved in together at 7 months, got engaged at a year and half, and will be getting married after 3 years.