(Closed) In your 30's is not to old!!

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I don’t think people are saying its to old more as they are worried their clock is ticking.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Sweet.Sugar.Rose:  That is exactly what my post was trying to convey. Maybe the word old is being used too loosely.

And I think it is a valid concern for those of us who have not TTC yet and are creeping on the number 30.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I hear you. Darling Husband is only 28 and I constantly hear how old he is having his first baby! Really?! When did he want to have kids before we got jobs and bought a house? I think people used to have kids younger because life was different but now there is college and careers and people are trying to get setlled because everything is so much more expensive.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

Hrm, I haven’t actually seen anyone flat out say that 30s is too old to have kids.  However, I have heard some bees voice concerns over the fact that the risk for complications increases at the age of 30 and 35 and I think that the ability to get pregnant decreases, as well. 

I’m sure that any pregnancy can have complications.  I’m sure that the age of 30 and 35 is not set in stone.  I’m sure the risk increases with age depending on the person themselves.  I’m sure there are older moms who are in better health/shape than younger ones who have less complications, regardless of age. 

But, I am 28, so coming from someone who thinks that way (the way that upsets you, sorry!) I also know that I want to have a child sooner rather than later (while still waiting that is until we are both ready for that) because I wouldn’t want there to be a complication that could have been avoided had I had the child just a few years earlier. 

I’m very happy to hear though that you were 37 when you had your first child!  It really gives me hope that I can still wait to get my own life together before bringing another one into this world. 

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@Sassygrn:  Woah! Who said you was to old? 🙁 That is not right & is against weddingbee rules! Can you point out the post to be flagged?

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Sassygrn:  I don’t think 30 is old to have kids. People should be able to have young kids at whatever age! It’s not the age gap that concerns me. It’s the ability to have a healthy pregnancy. No offence to anyone in their 30’s or older.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I think perhaps you are being sensitive. Fertility does decline before you even hit 30, it would be foolish for a woman who wants children to not be aware of this. Stats are what they are for a reason- a 20 year old has a better chance of getting pregnant than a 30 year old. Totally sucks, but it is what it is. Nothing wrong with having totally rational fears over fertility. 

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@Sassygrn:  Okay, that is good.

And that is great! I don’t think people are actually sayings its to old, but like I said just worried. Its normal to worry but does not mean its impossible! You & many, MANY other ladies are living proof! 🙂

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

There is not one particular age that is too old. Many women at 41 have babies, and some women at 28 can’t have them. But overall, it is much easier before your mid to late 30’s. I know, because I went through it. I’m only pregnant now (34 yrs old) because of IVF and have a very low AMH (early decline with quantity of eggs) and would have most likely been pregnant without IVF in my 20’s. So for me my clock was practically beyond ticking by the time my husband and I got married (when I was 32) and we ttc. After 35, the odds of getting pregnant and not having complications start to drastically decrease. It’s just biology.

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

My mom had me (her first) at 31 (pregnant after 3-ish months of trying), and had my youngest brother at 44! (And he’s perfectly healthy!) Anything is possible. Don’t let the haters get you down!

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