(Closed) Inappropriate 1st kiss?

posted 10 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: How should we kiss?

    You sit in your chair, he sits in his and you reach across to kiss him

    Sit on his lap!

  • Post # 17
    1557 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I would say sit in his lap or lean down and kiss him. I doubt anyone would view you sitting in his lap as inappropriate considering the circumstances, but it may be more awkward (to stand up, re-arrange, sit, then kiss) but I think you should do what feels right! How do you normally kiss him? Do you lean down or sit on his lap?


    very good points to consider.

    Post # 18
    7039 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Not inappropriate, but you may want to practice it, because I think with a big dress on that it could get a little awkward to sit on his lap! Don’t want to end up with weird facial expressions in the pictures or with it taking forever to get adjusted correctly to do the kiss!

    Post # 19
    104 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    You have to talk to your Fiance about this. It is ultimately a decision that should be made by the two of you. 

    Personally I think we of the hive spend too much time worrying about what our guests will think instead of doing what we really want. I am as guilty of this as anyone else. 

    This is your wedding, your first kiss as a married couple only happens once. Do what makes you happiest and what feels right. 

    If you are concerned about having an odd moment during the ceremony when you readjust your dress, have someone do a reading or tell a story or play some music. 

    Honestly though, the people at your wedding are there to see you two be happy and really won’t mind about a 3min break as you sort your dress for a moment of shared happiness. 

    Do what you and he want to do. 


    Post # 20
    1888 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    OH this would be SO cute!  I’d really take your time with it, make it really special for you and the guests.  Stand up and take his hands, look deeply at eachother for a moment, the gracefully sink into his lap and take his face in your hands to kiss him SOO romantic!  If your photog can’t get the shot, re-stage it later when the church is empty.  ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 22
    3260 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Go ahead and sit on his lap! I would find it completely endearing.

    And you can sit on his lap and kiss him in your dress for practice… just blindfold him ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Post # 23
    488 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2022 - City, State

    I vote for sit in his lap… it will be cute and make for nice pictures.   If you’re worried about how long it will take you to adjust… you can practice beforehand (in your dress.. sitting on a hair, you can even have your Maid/Matron of Honor or mom to practice with)

    Post # 24
    2159 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    For me personally, you sitting in his lap to kiss him during the ceremony would be a bit too…casual, I guess would be the best word. What if you did the lean-over kiss for the ceremony, and then sat in his lap for another when you made your grand entrance into the reception? That seems like a more appropriate time for it to me.

    Post # 25
    3683 posts
    Sugar bee

    Practice wearing your petticoat (if you’re wearing one!) or see if a friend has a dress you can practice in.

    Best of luck. Your love is obvious and will be obvious in your photos no matter what pose you pick.

    Post # 26
    6414 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Sitting on his lap would be perfect… and cute! 

    Post # 27
    3968 posts
    Honey bee

    @ChantelleyLace:  It sounds like it’s a photog thing vs. an intimacy thing. And, for that, I’d say the leaning over while seated to kiss would make the best picture.

    You can always have other pictures (with you seated in his lap kissing) as part of your couples pictures.

    I’m all for doing what feels the most comfortable.  The anticipation of our first kiss was killing me.  I felt like DH almost knocked me over, so our 1st kiss pictures have me gripping onto him for dear life.  

    That’s why I think it might be easiest to do the sit and reach and kiss vs. the trying to get on his lap and maneuver around the wheel chair in your dress.  That said – if you choose to do this – I don’t think the TIME it would take would be an issue AT ALL.  I think it would be sweet and lovely.  But, again- not quite sure if it would make for a good 1st kiss picture.

    Post # 28
    4560 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I say sit in his lap, but don’t be so worried about how the dress looks. I think it only works if you are just so excited to be married that you flop/leap into his lap and kiss.

    Post # 29
    1519 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I think you should do whatever feels right at the time. As much as we plan these things they never go exactly as we think anyway. Just wing it! It will be perfect regardless.

    Post # 30
    3 posts
    • Wedding: April 2010

    Knowing that you sit on his lap normally when you kiss him, I definitely voted to do the same for the ceremony! You want to do what’s natural and feels the best for both of you, and if that means sitting in his lap, you should go for it. I agree with the other ladies that it’s not a big deal if you have to take a minute to adjust your dress before sitting. Your guests won’t mind!

    Post # 31
    4460 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @ChantelleyLace: as long as you don’t straddle him, you will be fine. Keep your legs closed and don’t turn it into a make out session. It will be sweet!

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