(Closed) Inappropriate BM dress?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Should I ask her to pick another dress?
    Yes : (48 votes)
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  • Post # 3
    Hostess
    16213 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    Yeah, the open back is pretty bold. Not to mention, the dress isn’t exactly knee length…

    Has she already bought the dress? Can you perhaps help her in her pursuit of another? Seems like a little too much skin, in my opinion.

    Post # 4
    Hostess
    18643 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I don’t think it’s that risque.  If the sides were cut in closer so you had some side boob cleavage or something, I wouldn’t think it would be appropriate but I think it looks fine, especially with a shawl.

    Post # 5
    Member
    261 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I think its okay, and people are really only going to see her back for the 30 seconds she’s walking down the aisle.

    Post # 6
    Member
    202 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    are you letting them all choose their own?  if this is a dress that you’re requiring a bunch of girls to wear – I would go for something a little longer.  I’m on the slimmer side and would be uncomfortable showing this much leg at a wedding.

    or is this something that she’s just picked out herself?  because you let her pick her own?  That’s tricky.  I personally think it’s too much skin, but I also think that after you’ve passed on the “pick whatever you want” torch to your bridesmaids and haven’t set guidelines, it’s all out of your hands.  

    i agree with you, i think it’s too skimpy, but I also would have made it much more specific than “black knee length dress” so as to avoid such situations.  eek you might be stuck?  sorry this didn’t help…..

    Post # 7
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    2103 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    Doesn’t seem risque at all to me, but perhaps you should ask her to wear a shawl if you feel it is inapprops.

    Post # 9
    Hostess
    16213 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    I guess it’s true that most often, people will be looking at her front instead of her back, especially during the ceremony. Is she okay with a shawl? Maybe you can compromise that she wears the shawl for the ceremony and then can remove it and “let loose” a bit for the reception?

    Post # 10
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    1023 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I think its too much for a wedding. I would politely apologize for not giving more guidelines, but you don’t think that dress is appropriate and then give her an example more in line with your expectations.

    Post # 11
    Member
    435 posts
    Helper bee

    It seems a little too revealing to me for the ceremony. I like the dress, but think she needs to cover up a bit for the ceremony.

    Post # 12
    Member
    612 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I think it’s a little inapproptiate.  I would tell her that you like the dress however you do not think that it is what envisioned when you told everyone to pick out a knee length black dress.  Let her know that you wanted something a bit more toned down and longer.  If you think she needs more help then I would then offer to go shopping with her so that you can help her find something.  If all else fails buy her a dress that you feel is more appropriate, because she can’t fight about it if she didn’t pay for the dress. 

    Post # 13
    Member
    573 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    Maybe some more direction would have been good, but then again you probably figured she had some common sense! If you wanted knee length, I think most people would have understood that you’d want a back to it and no plunging necklines (I’m throwing that out there so she doesn’t find a dress with a back but little front 😉

    Go ahead and give her a more detailed description of what you want.

    Post # 14
    Member
    314 posts
    Helper bee

    I think that it actually isnt that bad, I mean at least its not the front that is cut soo low and her girls were hangin out ya kno?? Its just a back, and alot of bm dresses now are strapless with backs out..

    Post # 15
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    523 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I think its a cute dress…plus better to show too much in the back than in the front! :o)

    Post # 16
    Member
    177 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    it doesn’t seem risque to me, but it depends on her shape/bust etc. I think the shawl will be fine with it

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