Post # 1
Darling Husband and I are having a wedding/vow renewal with a huge celebration.
Would it be appropriate to set up a honeymoon fund?
We do not need gifts of any kind. It was suggested by a friend when I explained that we weren’t having a registry nor did we want gifts.
Thanks for your thoughts.
Post # 3
If it’s a vow renewal, don’t. You’re already married, you shouldn’t register for anything.
If it’s a wedding, do.
Post # 4
@chilecorona: if this isn’t your first wedding together, I don’t think any type of registry for anything is appropriate. If guests choose to bring a gift or card, that is their choice, but to ask for anything at a vow renewal or even suggest it seems bad.
Post # 5
as ‘bebero’ said above.
If it is your Wedding, absoluetly.
If it is a vow renewal – absolutely not.
Post # 6
If I were invited to a vow renewal I would find it odd to see a honeymoon fund. do you have a favorite charity or organization that you could identify for guests who wish to make a donation in your honor?
Post # 7
If it’s a wedding, I would definitely set up a honeymoon fund. I think people can even buy you specifics like activities (ex: jet skiing for two) or w.e you put on there.
If it’s a vow renewal, I think calling it a honeymoon, unless you haven’t had a big wedding with gifts would be weird. If this is your ONLY wedding celebration – go ahead and do the honeymoon fund.
If you already had a wedding and this is another celebration – I think it’s ok to say no boxed gifts please (and since there is no registry, ppl would only give cash/cheques/gift cards).
I think if you already had a “proper wedding celebration” then don’t do a honeymoon fund and just do the “no boxed gifts please.”
Post # 8
I think it depends on what you mean by vow renewal for me. Like, if you’re just legally married and this is the first time you’re celebrating your marriage and your “real” honeymoon I’d be ok with it. If you’re celebrating an anniversary or something and just doing a vow renewal, I think it’s kind of silly to have a “honeymoon” fund or expect gifts at all outside of a bottle of wine or something.
That said, “honeymoon fund” is just a euphenism for cash, and as someone who always gives cash for a wedding, even if people DO have a registry, I don’t believe people really need much hint that people like to receive cash. Lack of registry and word of mouth that you’re saving up for a nice vacation should be hint enough for most people.
Post # 9
If you can’t afford a honeymoon and if you are already married no you shouldn’t be doing any type of registries…
Post # 10
@Firework: Thanks! It think this is the best idea. Knowing my husband’s family and friends, I know if we say “no boxed gifts” they’ll give cash.
I figured it was “tacky.” We never had a wedding. We eloped 4 hours after he proposed, but then Darling Husband got very, very sick and the celebration/wedding never happened.
Post # 11
If its your wedding then for sure. You can actually register at travel centers and then you can put down that u are registered at … Blah blah and ur not simply asking for money toward ur honey moon – seems a bit more appropriate to do it that way. If its a vow renewal then I wouldn’t. I would imagine if people get u gifts at all, they would assume that u already have the things u need since ur already married, and would give u cash gifts anyways
Post # 12
@Sassygrn: I didn’t say we couldn’t afford a honeymoon/vacation, but thank you. I would agree with you were that the case.
Post # 13
I think it depends on the situation – it sounds like you didn’t get the original wedding you deserved and this is your do over. If you never had a wedding and never received wedding gifts then go for it. I set it up directly through my travel agent – I have heard some really mixed reactions. I think it’s fabulous and know a bunch of guests going to the shower contributed 🙂
Post # 14
@SapphireSun: Yes, the first time we’re celebrating the marriage. I’ve mentioned in other posts that Darling Husband became paraplegic 10 days after our elopement. He’s recovered now, thank God.
Post # 15
@chilecorona: In that case, absolutely go for the honeymoon fund! Sounds like you guys deserve it!
Post # 16
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
Best not to say or set up anything. People who want to gift will give cash or an item of their choosing (and those people probably would do that anyway even if you set up a honeyfund) and no one will be offended.