(Closed) Inappropriate or no?……..

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Busy bee

Ooooh I wouldn’t. Just tell your fiance that it was an honest mistake – “Hey hon, I completely forgot where this broach came from, but it was a gift from Michaelangelo! I don’t think I’ll be wearing it to our wedding.”

That way the ball is in his court, he can agree that it’s weird, or he can say “Go ahead and wear it anyway, it will look lovely and obviously you don’t have feelings for him anymore.”

If my fiance wanted to wear a gift from an ex on our wedding day, it would be a firm hell no from me. 

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018 - Farm

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dannij8918 :  No, I would not wear it. Are you able to find another peacock broach and just purchase that and wear it.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Nope. If you can’t even be honest with your fiance about it, then that’s your answer right there. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I don’t think it was inappropriate but now that you’ve connected the dots, you will be thinking of your ex when you see the peacock broach. I’d just do something else, 

Post # 7
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Busy bee

No. Not a way to celebrate the beginning of your life with someone else.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Nope. I would not. Mainly because I think that now that you know where it came from you won’t be able to help but to think about it (or maybe even feel slightly guilty about it) when you’re wearing it on the day of. I’d want to be as far away from any thoughts of exes on that day as possible! Plus, I don’t your Fiance would appreciate it if he knew.

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

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dannij8918 :  My point was more that if it makes you uncomfortable to tell him (which clearly it did since you were not honest with him when he originally asked – that’s what changing the subject to avoid telling the truth is) then it’s probably not a good idea. No need to be defensive, in your OP you at no point mention that you did tell him where it was from which indicates that you were still hiding it from him. I can only go of off what you include.

Post # 12
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Busy bee

Yeah, I wouldn’t wear that one just because, but I’m sure you can find something else similar/ even more beautiful if you start looking online! 🙂 Good Luck!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

My husband isn’t sentimental and doesn’t care that I wear jewelry given to me by my ex husband. It’s jewelry. Not a big deal. 

Post # 14
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I dunno, I don’t think it’s a big deal. Clearly the present didn’t mean that much to you if you completely forgot who gave it to you.

It’s a pretty trinket and leave it at that. Don’t give it power over you.

Post # 15
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Honey bee

I don’t give possessions that much power over me.  If I liked it, I’d wear it.  The origin of it wouldn’t bother me.  The posession isn’t the relationship.

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