Post # 1
Something that another bee posted in a thread got me thinking about something. She made a comment about giving an inappropriate response to a semi-serious situation. I TOTALLY do this! Serious, sad/depressing, awkward moments do something to me that makes me act in a way that normal people probably don’t think is very suiting to the situation.
For example: My dad’s cousin passed away several years ago and it was so incredibly sad because my family was very close to her. Like most people, I loathe funerals but I hate them because I have an irrational fear of dead bodies. I know it’s dumb, but I just do! So I was super anxious going into the funeral home but surprisingly I did ok at the viewing. Well, then the service started and her sisters got up there and were saying really sweet things and crying and other people were crying (including myself) and I really wanted to ditch that joint ASAP bc it was just so sad. Well, my sister was sitting next to me and she decided to open a piece of candy…you know the kind that takes an hour to open and is so.freaking.loud that it feels like it echoes through the room…yeah that’s the kind of candy she decided to eat. So that annoyed me. Then she started crossing and uncrossing her legs every 5 seconds (or at least it felt that way). Then she would sigh, then cough, then shift in her seat. Between the sadness and awkwardness and now this I had HAD it! I turned to her and with the most serious expression, I whispered firmly “Will you please shut up?!?” Her face hardened and she whispered harshly back to me, “YOU shut up!!” Oh.My.Lord we lost it! We both started laughing hysterically and trying to muffle the giggles (our cousin later told us that she thought we were just crying really hard haha!) I swear we giggled off and on for like 10 minutes until my mom turned to us and asked us if we needed to excuse ourselves. This set us straight for the most part! But this always happens to me! At funerals, during serious conversations, when someone is angry with me or yelling at me…I can’t help myself! I just burst into laughter!
Is anyone else stricken with this social faux pas?! What’s the worst situation you’ve been in when you’ve lost it?!
Post # 3
@SweetMelissa429: During fights I am witnessing or often a part of, with my parents and/or sister, I smile and sometimes even giggle. I am the complete opposite of happy in that situation, it is just something I have done to deal with it since I was little. Weird I know.
Post # 4
Wow that sounds familiar! My great grandmothers funeral was horrible for me, I loved that woman so much it was a painful day. My family decided on like 4 slow sad country songs to play in the background during alternativng moments of silence & someone getting up & telling a story about her. It was so horrible for me I was bawling my eyes out non-stop. My now Fiance was there with me & must have really hated seeing me like that so he started discreetly tickling me. I was really annoyed at first until he got a really good one in there & I burst out laughing & couldn’t stop but tears were still running down my face. Afterwards everyone said they thought I was just crying hysterically… Thank God!
Post # 5
@SweetMelissa429: I don’t think that is strange. At my brothers funeral my cousin did a heartfelt self written song and organ solo which was great BUT every time we thought he was about to be done another verse happened. It just went on forever. Everyone would raise their hands to clap and then have to put them down or pretend to scratch.
I was crying and giggling at the same time. It was a nice reminder that even sadness leaves room for happiness. And I am definitely not having any instruments available for my funeral.
Post # 6
@Jacqui90: I’ve done it since I was a kid too! It used to get me in even deeper trouble with my parents bc they’d be scolding me and I’d laugh at them! I knew I shouldn’t be laughing, but I couldn’t help it!
Post # 7
@SweetMelissa429: My dad planned this memorial mass for the 1 year anniversary of my mom’s death. The priest that did it knew my mom well, but only in the last couple years of her life, when she was sick, through this weekly bible study she & my dad went to.
So at the mass he’s talking about how mom was “a kind, gentle woman” and all this really sweet stuff. Only… my mom was so NOT that. I loved her… but she was a ball-buster and totally inappropriate most of the time. I had to put my head down and then I could just FEEL my uncle looking at me. I tried SO hard not to look at him but finally couldn’t help myself. We made eye contact and started cracking up.
I guess people thought we were crying, because there were tissues being handed to me from every direction, which only made me laugh harder. I guess it makes sense though… my mom was infamous for laughing inappropriately. She went into fits of hysterical laughter with full-on snorting at church ALL. THE. TIME.
Post # 8
@MexiPino: that just made me smile and sort of tear up at the same time. That’s such a sweet, personal moment for you and your uncle!
I also seem to laugh at the wrong time. Whenever something serious is going on it’s like my go to is to laugh
Post # 9
Guilty of this as well! My brother and I used to fight like cats and dogs, and he’d go blue in the face yelling, and I would just burst out laughing, making him even angrier.
I’m pretty inappropriate in general, and my commentary is known among friends for being out there. I make fun of a lot of things that I probably shouldn’t. If I acted like my real self on the bee (and didn’t tone ‘er down) I’d have been banned a long while ago.
Post # 10
I giggle when nervous or in awkward situations. Churches, funerals, brief moments of silence, prayer….its horrible. I giggled a lot during my first date with my husband.
Post # 11
@SweetMelissa429: I’m the same way. Several years ago my family went to a funeral for a family friend’s father. Well for some reason everything was funny even though the atmosphere was sad. And it didn’t help that this woman sang a solo and I felt like searching through my purse to hand her the right key…I mean her pitch was SOOO off! My sister and I were cracking up and I didn’t want my aunt to see us because I thought we would get in trouble later. I just pretended I was coughing because I couldn’t stifle the laughter anymore. Turns out my aunt was cracking up too.
Also, my best friend used to always get in big arguments with her parents when I’d be over her house. She’s really sarcastic and a bit of a comedienne so when she would be arguing she’d say the funniest things. I would try so hard not to laugh and let her parents see me.
Post # 12
@Galang_Gyal: Omg I had a friend like that too! Haha! And I did the same thing when my niece was little. My sister would be scolding her and it was partly because I hated that she was getting in trouble and partly because she was so darn cute when she’d give that little guilty/sad face, but I would bust out laughing and my sis would get sooo mad at me haha!
Post # 13
@SweetMelissa429: At my cousin’s funeral, the pallbearers almost dropped his coffin…I had to bite my tongue REALLY hard, I thought I was going to lose it! I have never told anyone because I was so ashamed of my almost inappropriate reaction – I was only 16, the funeral was awful, the first one I’d been to for someone who didn’t die of old age.
Then at my great aunt’s funeral, the funeral director delivered a eulogy about her that wasn’t really about her at all, and said ‘you aren’t the first to lose someone, and you won’t be the last’, like they were words of comfort or something! It was a talkin point after the funeral for sure!
Post # 14
I feel ya. I am the person who everyone avoids looking at during serious situations because they claim I will make them laugh.