Post # 1
This is a two part thread.
First, what is the most inapproriate item you’ve seen on a registry? I haven’t seen many reigistries so I can’t answer my own question…
Second, is it inappropriate to add personal items on a registry? I’ve heard that registry items should be items that both people can use. For example, I registered for a hair dryer. Since FH is bald he doesn’t use one. Is it something I should take off the registry?
Post # 3
i would say anything goes on a registry …
w exception of a car or house.
Post # 4
I have seen a wide range of items that made me think;
-Hose (how the hell do you wrap this??)
Honestly if it bothers me I move on and buy something that doesn’t. You have the ability to register for anything you want but that doesn’t mean your guests will/want to buy it for you.
Post # 5
TO @Treejewel19: Ok I just snorted my coffee…
WTH… Now THAT IS INAPPROPRIATE
I mean really. If you can plan to get married… then you can plan to be responsible to “take care of business”
NO ONE NEEDS to buy anyone else condoms. Ever.
Talk about uncouth.
Post # 6
@This Time Round: I guess that answers the “when are you having children” question.
Post # 7
@Treejewel19: LOL That’s awesome. Condoms and Redbull? I guess they want to be prepared for their honeymoon.
@yippee62913: I don’t think it’s a problem to put something that is “personal” on the registry. I don’t think people are really going to sit there and say, “Oh, so and so has no hair. Why get them a hair dryer?” We had some personal items on ours. For example, Darling Husband doesn’t drink coffee but I do and we still registered (and received) for a Nespresso machine.
I think extremely expensive things could be left off, though I wouldn’t say these items are inappropriate. For example, I’ve seen a registry with a $1500 four poster bed. I don’t really think anyone is going to buy that and the parents/immediate family members would gift cash instead of the bed. Most retailers let you buy additional things that aren’t on the registry with your registry completion discount so you don’t necessarily have to add every single thing.
Post # 8
TO @yippee62913: in answer to your original Question… (sorry I got side-tracked)
Etiquette Snob here…
Typically personal items are not seen on the Wedding Registry. Thinking is that it is a list of possible items that the Bride & Groom could use to start their life together as a couple / home goods.
The exception… is if the Bride would be having a “Personal Shower”…. where gifts for her Beauty & Pampering are the norm.
BUT in that case, those items are usually listed with another type of venue than a Department Store that usually maintains a Wedding Registry. (So more like a store like Victoria Secret, Sephora etc). The idea being that Dear Aunt Sally & Uncle Richard don’t need to see your “intimates” on their shopping list.
Hope this helps,
Post # 9
nose hair trimmer. that just got a big eeewww out of me. I can’t believe someone would actually put that on their registry.
@Treejewel19: I think games like xbox and other recreational items are ok for a registry because it’s something the couple will, presumably, enjoy together.
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Post # 11
TO @lilbluebird: you said,
We had some personal items on ours. For example, Darling Husband doesn’t drink coffee but I do and we still registered (and received) for a Nespresso machine.
In this example, the Nespresso machine would not be considered a personal item (despite the fact that Darling Husband doesn’t drink coffee)… it remains as a Household good, and therefore totally acceptable… (we assume you’ll use it to make coffee for your Guests as well)
These other items would all fall under household as well… a heating pad, hot water bottle, first aid kit, or a fire extinguisher (can be used by either person in the couple)
But not so for the Hair Rollers, Curling Iron or Shoes listed above (we assume for only one)
The Wii, Playstation and XBox are all good to go. As is the large ticket item the bed (altho it is pretty gutsy to list things over a certain amount of money… and that is kind of set by your social circle / family status / upbringing. Most people set the limit at items less than $ 200, $ 500 or $ 1000 accordingly)
Hope this helps,
Post # 12
Condoms??? Ok, that takes the prize. Since a lot of stores offer a discount for items registered for but not purchased, I can see why there are some odd items there. Game stations really don’t go on sale during the year. So unless you want to wait for the price drop preceding a new system coming out or buy used, that’s the only way you’ll get a discount on it. Generally speaking though, I’ve always seen ‘home goods’ on registries. I’ve never seen personal beauty items like makeup or a hair dryer, but I don’t think I’d have batted an eye. Wouldn’t have bought them either though.
Post # 13
@yippee62913: I’ve seen a registry with a Diva Cup on it…that’s way too much information for me, thank you….another one sported really boring stuff like paper towels, toilet paper, cases of Pepsi….and I just could not bring myself to give someone Pepsi at their wedding….it was like I was running into a brick wall, it’s on the registry, they say they want it..BANG…Nona – Don’t do that!
When I smack into a registry like that, I just give them money, they tried, I get it, but I’m not gift wrapping a case of Pepsi Zero, I’m not..because the minute I finish tying the bow, Satan will appear laughing at me and explain that my purchase was fortold in the days of yore, has hearalded the apocalypse, and now the world is ending….he will scewer me with his pitchfork and I’ll be tossed in the lake of fire with Abercrombie, Fitch and the guy that invented Gigpets…
Wow…I kind of went off on a rant there, didn’t I?
Anyway, I think there should be a line between the couple and their guests and the registry items should reflect that…I don’t want to know what kind of razors you use…but small appliances and things like that are ok.
Post # 14
My mom said people like buying fun stuff. My sister and her husband mostly did a honeymoon registry, since they were moving out of the country less than a year after the wedding, but on their small physical registry, they put a couple boxes of cereal just for fun, and people bought them all!
Post # 15
Double Post – Please excuse!
Post # 16
When Fiance and I were setting up our Crate & Barrel scanning things, I saw a book titled “How to avoid a hangover” and I scanned it. I thought it was funny because all my family & friends know I get horrible horrible hangovers. We meant it as a joke and thought seeing a book like that on a registry full of wine glasses and whatnot would make people laugh 🙂
Low and behold, it was the 2nd gift purchased for us, and I know my friends got a kick out of it. Not sure if that was inappropriate though!