(Closed) Inappropriate Subjects that FIL’s keep bring up…

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

wow, that is awkward. Do they either really dislike their son, or else are they *trying* to get you to not marry him?

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My IL’s make sex jokes all the time.

Future Father-In-Law: If you would excuse me, I must go service my wife now.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@ms.charming: DH’s mom does the same darn thing. She has told me abotu hearing him have sex when he was younger, tells me about his gf’s, and she still hangs out with his ex-wife and claimed that she told her about DH’s “skills in the sack” GROSS!!!!. What’s worse is that she told me this. It’s tough to deal with. Although, his mother is a total nut job all around, so I would expect nothing less.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Have you tried telling them that those topics make you a little uncomfortable? You don’t have to make a big thing of it (at least at first). Start by assuming the best – that they’re nice but clueless and don’t know that they’re weirding you out.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

They are either insanely clueless or passive-aggressive.  But that those are not normal conversation topics to have with your son’s Fiance.

I think your Fiance needs to have a talk with them and tell him that he knows that kind of talk makes HIM uncomfortable and he’s sure it probably bothers you too and that that it needs to stop.  By having him approach it that way, they see him as the “sensitive” one, rather than as you being a big baby who knew your Fiance had a past when you got involved with him, but aren’t mature enough to handle it.  That’s not my opinion btw, but if they are crazy enough to talk that way in front of you, they might well think like that too.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@mwitter80:  Wow, just wow.  The things some of you have to deal with.  I can’t even imagine.  I’m very sorry your Mother-In-Law is like that. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Thinking about my Future Mother-In-Law makes me nervous. I’ve never met her, nor does she even know we are engaged. And unless someone spills the beans we most likely will not tell her until right before the Save-The-Date Cards go out. The stories I have heard… I won’t make FH go through that. She honestly asked when we were going to give her a grandbaby like two months after we moved in together. (so 14 months of dating) I can’t complain as I don’t deal with her while FH has to deal all the time with my crazy mom!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Coming at this from a different perspective…

I strayed a bit in HS. I became experminetal with drugs (nothing hard, just weed) and picked up smoking. I started dating a guy who was older and when I ended the relationship he went psycho and tried to kill my family. 

My parents bring it up every.time.we’re over. “At least your not like her crazy ex boyfriend who tried to kill us in out sleep! What were you thinking when you dated him?” I kindly try to joke about it and then steer conversation but no matter how many times I tell them to stop it’s like they don’t realize they do it!

I think it might just be them trying to make you feel better about getting him after he went through his phase? I don’t know? Maybe they think it will make you see what a great person he has become?

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Some of these in laws sound absolutely CRAZY!!!!!  Ladies, dealing with the nut job in laws, you have my sympathy.  I would def. have my fiance speak to his parents if they showed this kind of behavior….

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