Post # 1
I am trying to decide if I should include RSVP cards with the invitations. My inclination is to not include them but I’m sure the expectation from the future in-laws is to probably include them. And I’m on a low budget with high taste. Thoughts?
Edit: I already have a wedding website up where guests can RSVP if they choose. I have already sent out Save-The-Date Cards with the website info on it as well.
I read this book http://www.amazon.com/Manners-Guide-Surprisingly-Dignified-Wedding/dp/0393069141 Highly recommend it! In it, the author says that traditional etiquette says that guests RSVP by dropping a note in the mail, making a phone call,etc. It’s silly to include a self-addressed stamp envelope and card for guests to check a box on. If someone wants to attend you’re wedding, they’ll take the care and the time to inform they will be able to attend.
Post # 3
It depends if you need to have a count of who’s coming. If you don’t send RSVP cards you are really leaving it very open for people to bring whoever, and you’ll have no idea who’s coming or not. If you don’t want to send out RSVP’s, at least do a wedding website where people can respond that way. Just make sure to include the website info with your invite.
Post # 4
i’m confused…you aren’t planning on finding out how many people are coming? don’t you need a number for caterers & seating?
Post # 5
I voted of course, but now that I spend some time to think about it you could have the RSVP on a wedding website. You just have to make sure the guests have the information to get on the wedding website and know when to RSVP by. I would have some way for the guests to RSVP for planning purposes! I actually got an invitation that didn’t have an RSVP and it just felt strange not having one! How is the bride supposed to know how many people to have food, chairs, cake, ect. for? I feel like it is more personal preference and budget if you include and RSVP card or postcard, but at least have the info so they know how to do it online.
Hope this helps!
Post # 6
I think if you put the RSVP information right on the invite (email, website or call) it would be fine.
It just might muck up the look you’re going for if you have expensive taste.
Post # 7
I would definitely offer a RSVP card. They are typical nowadays.
Post # 8
@zuzubelle: I think your issue is saving some money? Here is what I did – for the younger guests who you know can use a computer to go to your website or will shoot you an email, include RSVP cards but do not include a stamp. For the older guests who have no clue how to use a computer – because there are some out there! – I included an RSVP postcard with a cheaper postcard stamp.
Sure enough, the older guests are dropping the RSVP postcards in the mail and I expect my younger friends to just email me when the time comes.
Stamps cost I a lot, I totally understand!
Post # 9
I included an RSVP card and non-stamped envelope. The card requested a response by phone, email or return mail with all the information so that people could choose. A few people have just told me or texted me that they were coming, a few people filled out the card and gave it back in person. Some people really seem to want to mail the cards… even though we see each other all the time they put a stamp on and mailed it. I think it works pretty well. People can choose whatever method makes them happy and we didn’t waste stamps for those that didn’t mail the cards back.
Plus, it was a lot of fun to get back response cards where people had written fun things like “will attend with great pleasure.” So even if you don’t want to do cards with envelopes, a postcard could be a good happy medium.
Post # 10
My invite tells them what site to RSVP on or to call. We may provide an RSVP card for a very select few of the older people though.
We are using this one http://anrsvp.com
Post # 11
I read that book too and loved it. She is so right about so many things! That said…it’s a little crusty on certain issues (e.g. saying you should handwrite your invitations if you can’t afford engraving. Who has handwriting that nice?). I know she says it’s rude to send response cards because it implies that your guests aren’t polite enough to know that they’re supposed to RSVP. I think that’s a bit much, honestly. I see her point, but I think that a) it’s so accepted that it doesn’t seem rude at all and b) you might as well make it easy for polite people. If they want to write a personal note they will.
Post # 12
I did online-only RSVP for my small wedding. I knew that everyone would either have no problem with that method or for a couple of older family members, they could connect with their younger family member to get it done.
I included a card with info for RSVPing on the website and “please RSVP by” date. I didn’t include an envelope for that card because I thought people would be confused and try to send it back.
I didn’t put the RSVP info on the formal invite because it was already full of text and the DIY Brides invite kit that I bought at Michaels ($40/40 regular price, but they have a 40% off coupon every week.) came with RSVP cards anyway. I didn’t need any extra postage to mail it with the invites.
Although I got verbal confirmation of everyone attending almost immediately, I’m still waiting on some of the RSVPs to come back. If everyone does it a standard way, it really is easier to get meal info (if they have choices) and a head count.
Post # 13
I am doing a pocketfold style of invite, so I have 4 inserts. I’m including an RSVP postcard but it will NOT include postage on it. Instead, it lists the options for guests to use to RSVP. I figure if they can’t do ONE of those options, that’s ridiculous and they don’t deserve to come to my wedding 🙂
Here’s not an actual picture but a crop from the Word doc, and also I’m still playing with fonts and stuff so it’s just the basics of what I’m doing for the RSVP:
Post # 14
I doubt that anyone will bother to RSVP if there are not cards. I see what the album is saying, but it’s just not something I would do. I would just show up if I was invited. Have you considered putting RSVP cards and envelopes without the stamps? If you’re friends on facebook with these people then you can probably just ask them on there (or in person) if they plan to go. But I would be careful… you may think somebody is not coming and then tons of people show up (with extras).
Post # 15
I offered my guests the option to rsvp online or by phone. A few older guests wrote cards instead. If they are older and don’t know how to use a computer, then they probably have access to paper, envelopes and stamps themselves.
But if you have a website that you are expecting people to use, you should probably include that information on the invitation or a seperate insert. people might not remember it from the save the date.
Post # 16
I would still send the RSVP cards. I had a website with an online RSVP, and I was surprised at the number of guests who still sent in their RSVPs by mail. Some people just don’t like doing it over the internet.