(Closed) Including 7 year old Daughter

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I really like the necklace idea.  I saw on an episode of “Four Weddings” where the couple did their vows to each other, then the minister called up their daughter and they also wrote vows to say to their daughter (promising to always love and take care of her, etc).  They then gave her a necklace to symbolize the vows.  It made me cry!  It was really sweet.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I love that show too!  I am sure she would LOVE to be included in the vows.  Too cute!  Let us know what you decide 🙂

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

And I just noticed we are date twins!  Yay!  (I’m such a nerd)

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Maybe your dad could walk you halfway and your daughter could come in in the middle and join you? Just like real life 🙂

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ

If you feel she’s too old, I like the PP’s suggestions, but I just thought I’d mention etiquette-wise she’s not too old to be a Flower Girl. 🙂 2-8 = Flower Girl, 9-15 = Junior Bridesmaid or Best Man.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper

My seven year old daughter is walking me down the aisle. My Fi’s son will be waiting at the alter with Mr. A.

To us, this is the joining of four people, not two.

Part of our vows include loving and providing for the children (we haven’t quite figured out the wording yet)

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper

My seven year old daughter is walking me down the aisle. My Fi’s son will be waiting at the alter with Mr. A.

To us, this is the joining of four people, not two.

Part of our vows include loving and providing for the children (we haven’t quite figured out the wording yet)

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My 7 year old step daughter wanted to be a bridesmaid and NOT a flower girl… and it makes no difference to me because no matter what you call her, she’s just walking down the isle and sitting down either way. (she’s also very tall and mature for 7, most people assume she’s 9/10 and are surprised she’s 7, so making her be a flower girl would embarrass her.) It depends on the kid, if she wants to be part of the ceremony that’s cool. At first I thought we HAD to include SD in our ceremony, but I felt bad asking her to make any kind of vow or anything because it’s not her choice/responsibility to make a promise to be a family, we kinda decided it for her. Plus she’s the type to get stage fright.

I love the ideas about saying some vows to her, that’s very sweet. You could also say your vows and have a part where they ask her if it’s ok with her, in a more elegant wording. Could you make up a new role for her? She could walk down the isle but just be called something else? It may be cute if you don’t have a ring bearer and have her be like “keeper of the rings” or something… then she can hand off the during the ceremony so it’s kinda like she’s giving her blessing in a way during the ceremony. Also if it’s a religious ceremony she could bring up the gifts or something?

She sounds like a little pop star I love it!

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I am trying to figure a way out to include my son from a previous relationship as well so if I come up with anything I will let you know and I will be keeping an eye on this thread as well.

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