Post # 1
Group A: We have some friends/guests who are single to whom we’d happily give a plus one if they ask, but we don’t just want to give them all plus ones on the invites for capacity issues. We want these ppl to feel free to ask if they end up wanting to bring someone. Group B: There are a number of family friend guests who might try to bring their extended families and we’d like to discourage them from asking to bring these additional guests. The friend guests do not know the family friends at all and would never compare invitations with them.
I’m wondering if we should list the # of seats reserved in the guest’s honor and/or if we should list invitees names on the inner envelope or belly bands- for both groups, neither group, or just one group?
Would listing one name on inner envelope/belly band or listing 1 seat reserved in their honor on single friends’ invites discourage them from asking if they can have a plus one? we don’t want to do that, but we do want to discourage the family friends from asking to bring their adult children and DILs/SILs.
I am diying the invites, so it would be very easy to have the family friends’ invites list the # of seats reserved in their honor while not even having that sentence on the friend guests invites. Same for belly bands.
example of invite with “We have reserved __ seat(s) in your honor.”
Post # 3
@Shkragoldfish: if i was invited to a wedding, unless i had at least a boyfriend who i had been with a long time, i would not ask to bring a +1.
of your friends who have bfs, fis, dhs, give them a +1 named on the invitation.
otherwise, just invite the person. as it gets closer to the day, you can extend an extra quest to those you would like.
Post # 4
@ajillity81: yeah, guests who are married/living with someone/in relationships or who don’t know any other guests are all getting plus ones (by name where we know the plus one’s name). interesting, so you think it doesn’t matter much if we list the # invited or the name w/o plus one on all invites, then we can just ask our friends closer to the date if they want a plus one? that seems easy
Post # 5
@Shkragoldfish: don’t over complicate things, let this be a stressfree, happy time.
yes, a few weeks before, if you have the space, just extend a +1 for those you wish to extend a +1 for. it doesn’t have to be formal, they are your friends. you can ask them verbally, but stress to them that you need to know if they will bring the +1 by x date so you can let the caterer know.
Post # 6
Do both for all invites. If you are having inner envelopes then write out the names, and then on the RSVP card also right out “We have reserved x number of seats in your honor.”