including people in your wedding party who are not married into the family yet?

posted 11 months ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: You should include the partner of a sibling in the wedding party if they are in it.
    Yes always : (7 votes)
    27 %
    Only if they are married : (9 votes)
    35 %
    Only if they are engaged : (5 votes)
    19 %
    If they live together yes : (5 votes)
    19 %
  • Post # 16
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    8584 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    Well, it’ts entirely possible you won’t ‘display these pictures proudly all your life.’ I mean yes, you’ll look at them now and then always, but life will overtake the importance of pictures and videos. 

    So, l think it really doesn’t matter. Either they become family and there is no problem anyway, or they break up and  become merely ‘that’s‘my sisters’s boyfried when l got married’. Possibly, ‘ him, well he’s the utter arse my sister was going out with’.

    But none of that is really that important. The photos/videos show who was there when you got married. That one or more people in them are missing, disliked, even hated in no way invalidates anything. I wouldn’t give it a second thought.

     

     

    ladyjane123 :  

    Post # 17
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    98 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2019

    I don’t think you have to follow any of these at all. We are not including my fiancé’s brothers wife in our bridal party, and I am not including my brothers girlfriend although they have been together a long time and live together. I think people should just choose whoever they are closest with in their lives and would be happy seeing in their photos forever. If it just so happens to be a sibling’s significant other, great! If not, great!

    Post # 18
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    2713 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

    My brother and my husband’s sister were not in our wedding party, let alone their spouses.  For me it’s about the relationship you have with that person, not the family connection.

    Post # 19
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    1210 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2019

    mimivac :  but friends are important too and can be around for a long time and if a divorce happens they will no longer be your in laws but chances are they will still be your friends. I would be so hurt if my very best friend who I have been friends with for almost 20 years didn’t choose me to be in her bridal party at all (unless it was literally just her 2 sisters) because she felt the need to have some relative that may not even be in her life because a divorce could happen where as our friendship is so close we are more like sisters. I mean I definitely saw cases where people stopped talking to certain family members so blood or in law relations shouldn’t be chosen just based on principle of shared blood but based on who do you truly see in your life 20+ years from now ajd sometimes that is a friend. Now if you are truly closer to a SIL or a cousin or what not than your friends than that’s different but if you are closer to your friends then your SIL then no they shouldn’t be chosen out of obligation.

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