- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
Hi ladies! This is my first post and I’m hoping to get some etiquette guidelines.
My fiancee and I are getting married in May of 2014, and we originally comprised our parties of 5 peple each – my 2 best friends, 2 cousins and my future sister in law on my side, and my fiancees 4 closest friends & his brother on his. As time has gone on, I was thinking that I would really like to include my stepsister (who is a few years older than I am) in my party. We get along really well, and I figured that I would love to have her involved. The catch is I have two step siblings – a sister and a brother (brother is older also), and they are both married. I was concerned about inviting my stepsister to be in the party as she and my step sister in law are best friends, and I didn’t want to have hurt feelings. I consulted my stepmother who pretty much felt that if I invited my stepsister, I would have to invite my step SIL as well as she’s very sensitive and would probably have hurt feelings if I didn’t ask her as well. I don’t have anything against her, but I’m just not close to her and I really want to keep my party to my nearest and dearest. Also, if I expand my party, my fiancee has 1-2 other friends he would like to include as I’m sure my stepbrother really wouldn’t care to be in the party.
After that long winded explaination, what do you ladies think I should do? I feel as though it’s in my right to only include my stepsis, but at the same time, want to avoid any hurt feelings. I’m really torn over it as I feel sad that I’m not including my stepsis simply because of the “add on” of my step SIL. Help! 🙂