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My fiance and I are having a non traditional wedding. We have a larger wedding (8 on each side) but each person means the world to us. We didn’t take this lightly, we them to know how extremely special they were to us and that we chose them specifically because we could not imagine our wedidng without each of them by our side.
We somehow want to convey this in our ceremony. Does anyone have any suggetions on what we can do? The wedding is a few short months away!! 🙂
Thank you in advance!
Post # 3
What kind of cermony are you having? If you did something like hand fasting you could have pairs of groomsman/bridesmaids actually read the vows of this ceremony and tie the knots.
That way you could start and say something about how you guys couldn’t imagine getting married without these people standing up for you and because of that you want them to take an active part in the ceremony.
You can also include something in the program. I always like when the program explains who the person is ( i.e. grade school friend, cousin, college roommate).
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
I feel like it goes without saying that those people are important to you since they are standing up there with you.
Post # 5
Thanks Miss Turtle!! I’m not sure what hand fasting is?
Ms son: obviously by being up there they are important but I needed help with doing something extra.. Just something we are choosing for our wedding
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@mrsSonthebeach: I agree! They are already included by being up there and the ceremony is about the two of you not about your wedding party. They are standing up with you thats part of including them in the ceremony.
Especially if its a short ceremony and you have 16 extra people. i say keep it simple and keep it about you and your future husband, after all everybody is there for the two of you not for the 16 bridal party members.
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@Future Mrs K: after all everybody is there for the two of you not for the 16 bridal party members.
You can think of something special for them at the reception… the ceremony’s focus is for bride and the groom…
Post # 9
@Future Mrs K: +1
You are going to have 16 people standing up there… Doing anything “extra” is going to take forever if you’re including all of them, and, honestly, it’ll probably be less-than-thrilling if each one of them is doing something. Perhaps you could ask them to make toasts during the night (not all in a row, or people will be super bored) or something, bit I’d be hesitant to add something else into the ceremony to incorporate sixteen more people…
Post # 10
Could some of them do readings?
Do any of them sing/play an instrument?
Post # 11
But this is YOUR wedding, so do whatever you want! Yes, doing something with 16 people with take some time but people have long ceremonies all the time.
People do traditional things that take a long time… hymns, communion, etc. So, don’t let time deter you.
The ceremony is about how you two want to be married. If that included more intimate involvement of your family and friends than go for it! If other people think the focus should be on the bride and groom, then that’s their perogative.
In my opinion, the bride and groom have every right to do whatever the heck they want in their ceremony if its special to them. On the other hand, at the reception, I think you turn on the good hostess skills and not bore your guests with too many toasts, etc.
I had comments that people thoguht my ceremony was weird. I did hand fasting, had poems about love being like owning a dog and poems about the ocean, I used Beatles, Snow Patrol and Coldplay for my music. And it was PERFECT. I don’t care if they didn’t like it, they had to sit there for less than 30 minutes and watch my husband and I pledge our lives and love the way we wanted too. My real friends were happy for us! The others I shouldn’t have bothered to invite in the first place- lesson learned 🙂