Post # 1
i wish i could somehow put this both under pregnancy and the baby board. But im going with this one.
Im 30 days out from my expected due date and im starting to freak out that im grossly unprepared. i have a few bottles, some obvious baby necessities that i wont fully list off, etc but i feel like im missing a lot and just dont know what.
so mamas what were things you thought you didnt need but definitely needed once baby arrived home. Or any checklist on what was an absolute must for the first month or two.
Post # 2
Kslim13 : stop worrying! Newborns don’t need that much, and you can always stop by a drug store. The hospital gives you a lot to start, take everything. Enjoy your last few moments of quiet.
Post # 3
diapers, a few sleepers, a car seat, and a place for baby to sleep
Post # 4
Kslim13 : deep breaths.
Your baby needs very little at the start. They’ll sleep a bunch. Keep them warm (clothes and swaddles), keep them dry (diapers, wipes, some sort of cream or Vaseline), and keep them safe (somewhere safe to sleep and a car seat). It’s good to have your diaper bag ready at the start. You won’t need it at the hospital when you deliver but your first outing will be the day after you’re sent home: you’ll be taking your little one to the pediatrician and mine needed both a diaper change and a feeding while we were there.
Everything else you can order from Amazon and get it pretty fast.
The thing I was nose grateful to have when I gave birth was colostrum I’d started pumping at 37 weeks. I’d managed to freeze about one 15ml syringe a day by pumping 15 min each side and baby was born with low glucose so I had to supplement each feeding and feed every 2 hours. Having that colostrum was wildly helpful, as it meant I could get a little bit of sleep that first night after delivery while a nurse fed him using my colostrum. It’d have been basically the same story if he’d had jaundice.
I was surprised to see how much he LOVES white noise. We purchased a white noise machine on Amazon after he was born and actually had to exchange once or twice till we found one we liked, but apps on our phones worked just fine in the mean time.
He loves pacifiers and we definitely ordered more of those.
When we found a bottle that worked well for us/him we got a couple more. It’s not real necessary though; he is breast fed and gets a bottle a day or so when my husband takes a shift. We easily wash the one bottle daily. We did go ahead and buy a “size 0” nipple (Philips Avent bottle came with size 1, even though it’s for newborns.. no idea why) and that helps. Even with size 0 he dribbles.. 🤷
The haakaa has been super useful, and I went ahead and purchased a larger sized one cus I produce a ton of milk.. if you don’t already have one I’d suggest just getting the big one (since you can’t be too big but you can be too small) but if you have one just wait and see.
We ordered fleece footies and now that he’s wearing 0-3 we ordered some more in his new size. Our house is cold and if we don’t kepk him warm enough he doesn’t sleep well. If you plan on keeping your house 68 degrees ish (where mine’s at) I’d definitely suggest getting either fleece footies or a fleece Halo swaddle.
I dunno, I could keep going but really everything is just trial and error haha. Just take it hour by hour and be happy Amazon delivers super fast and has a good return policy.
Post # 5
We have honestly barely stepped foot in our nursery yet that I was so frantic to set up before the baby arrived, and she is almost two months old!
Must haves for any newborn (imo): diapers, wipes, something to change the baby on (we got the expensive keekaroo, but at this point are doing lots of changes on puppy pee pads right on top of our bed in the middle of the night lol), lots of onesies that zip up or are magnetic (save yourself the misery of negotiating snaps during 2am blow outs), something for baby to sleep in (pack nplay, bassinet, etc).
So much of it is trial & error. We’ve ordered a ton of shit on Amazon as we’ve gotten to know our baby and figure out our “routine” such as it is – but most of that stuff I would have had no way of knowing ahead of time that we’d need or would be so critical. Things like the haakaa pump, the love to dream arms up swaddle, the baby k’tan carrier, the comotomo bottles, puppy pee pads for middle of the night diaper changes on our bed…I could go on.
Post # 6
Basically what everyone else said, plus burp cloths. A car seat cover is also good to have for going out because 1. it’s winter, and 2. it keeps people from getting too close to your newborn. I think as long as you have the basics you’ll figure out pretty quickly what else you’ll need. Congrats and good luck!
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2007 - City, State
I’m on my 4th kid (27+3). You just made me wrack my brain for what I will need because I haven’t bought anything. LOL
You’re gonna need sleepers (ones that zip are easiest), onesies, socks (for hands with long nails and feet), tiny hats, blankets for warmth and swaddling, bottles with a drying rack if you’re doing formula or planning on someone else feeding breastmilk, a bottle brush, pacifiers, diapers (they go through so many when they are newborns), wipes, rash ointment, burp rags, scent free gentle laundry detergent. I also recommend a can of formula if you’re not set on exclusively nursing so you have it and aren’t running out at 3am. Most insurance companies cover breast pumps now unless you’re not in the US then IDK. If you’re in a very cold climate I recommend a JJ Cole bundle me for the car seat. I also recommend buying sensitive baby wipes. Things with fragrance irritate delicate baby skin.
Something that makes things easier: an infant bathtub. I never used washcloths, I just lathered my hands really well to get under their necks (spit up lives here especially if they’re chubby bubbies). Use a sensitive wash.
If you’re formula feeding, a bottle warmer will help. I don’t recommend giving a baby cold formula, it hurts their bellies, and tap water has too much stuff in it so I would use bottled water. If you’re nursing you can warm cold or frozen breast milk in the bottle warmer.
As for “gear”, you need a car seat and a bassinet. That’s really it at first. If the baby is colicky, or super fussy after a couple weeks, then invest in a swing that plugs in.
Baby will be with you for awhile, so set up a changing station and a feeding station with bottles and formula etc. in your room so you dont have to trudge to the kitchen every time.
Post # 8
A rock n play was the one early thing I needed but didn’t have. My dad ended up buying one and setting it up at our house while I was in the hospital and that’s where our daughter slept for the first two months. They aren’t recommended for safe sleep but she has been a roller since birth and would roll up against the sides of any flat sleep surfaces and the her face was muffled so the pediatrician okay’d the rock n play as the lesser evil.
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2007 - City, State
anondotcom : impressed with your colostrum idea. That is dedication.
Post # 10
Besides things the others have mentioned: such as car seat, bassinet, swaddle cloths and burp cloths, clothes.. you’ll probably need a Nose Frida.. we started using one early on.
Post # 11
sf618b : it was kind of a fluke.
I read in expecting better that vigorous nipple stimulation would bring on labor earlier so I started to do that.. but after like ten seconds of stimulation my colostrum started to flow and I got all wet and sticky so I figured I may as well collect it.
Then I also figured what’s more vigorous than pumping? So I just did that for 30 min daily (15 each side).. hands free nipple stimulation!
Post # 12
Unlike a lot of people we used our nursery all.the.time.
The best things for those early days:
- Plenty of sleepers & swaddles
- Muslin Swaddling Blankets
- Burp Cloths – seriously….buy some, and then buy some more. My baby was a puker and we went through soooo many a day.
- Car Seat
- Diapers/Wipes/Diaper Cream
Everything else is really subjective depending on if you are going to nurse or bottle feed (either formual or breastmilk). I made sure to have plenty of comfy lounge pants & nursing tanks, and I ended up using Depends instead of the mesh underwear and pads. I would get nipple cream just in case.
Aside from all the “stuff” the best advice I can give is to ask questions in the hospital! I think as a new mom you are so tired and out of it, and don’t always know what to ask. If you plan to nurse make sure you get some time with the hospitals lactation consultant. I was always busy or something was going on when she would stop by. Nursing was a huge struggle for us and I just wish I knew then what I know now and I would have been more vocal.
Post # 13
thanks so much ladies! i already have a good amount of whats been mentioned so im feeling a little more relieved. I do not have burp cloths though, i kept reading they were pointless and to use regular small towels/rags as a cheaper alternative.. But i guess i will try and invest in some.
i have a breast pump but have no idea how to use it, or if ill use it. I know milk doesnt come in till after birth typically, but i keep getting a feeling it isnt gonna happen for me, and might have to do formula only, i dont know why either i guess im over thinking it.
Post # 14
Agree with everyone else. I would suggest getting more than one changing pad cover and more than one crib sheet or bassinet sheet. Then you don’t have to panic if they get soiled (and they will). We also had kids who loved swaddle blankets and I used them for everything. Agree with the white noise recommendation- get one that doesn’t turn off (many have time limits). I also had two bread feeding pillows- one for our bedroom and one for downstairs. They’re great for propping up the baby and obviously breastfeeding so it was nice not to run up and down constantly. I am on my third pregnancy and could not live without my baby carriers (bijorn, moby wrap etc)- it’s a game changer if you need some free hands. Totally agree with the JJ Cole car seat cover also if you’re in a cold climate.
Lastly, for you, get some comfortable lounge wear- you’re going to be living in that stuff for a little bit and it’s nice to be able to change out of PJs but still be comfortable. If your breastfeeding I also love these cotton washable breast pads. They were so much more comfortable than the disposables. Congrats!
Post # 15
- Wedding: June 2007 - City, State
anondotcom : when did you actually go into labor?