Post # 1
My fiance is Lebanese and the Lebanese Catholic Church there has its own traditions for the mass (they do crowns instead of lazos and I don’t think they have a arras equivalent). We are getting married in his church (well, its “our church” now…) The concept of Arras and Lazos is foreign to them (its a Spanish tradition that made its way to the Phillipines and Mexico and other Latin countries but never got to the Middle East) and I am not sure yet if we will be allowed to use them during the nuptual mass. I still need to ask the priest, he MIGHT let us do it since there is nothing “un Catholic” about it. But, in case he says no…can anybody think of a way to include them during the wedding day so that mom won’t be so sad that we won’t do this?
Post # 3
I don’t see why they wont allow it. You should be able to incorporate your traditions as well. I don’t really know of any equivalents. Our priest was british and he was totally cool with letting us do it.
Post # 4
Well, I hope he lets us! What about ideas for if it’s not allowed?
Post # 5
We’re having a Destination Wedding in Miami and the church where we will be marrying only allows the lazo and nothing else that is not a part of the traditional mass.
If you have the same problem, I would suggest you ask if you can do the lazo instead of the crowns or do both together since it’s already a part of the ceremony and the arras, I would think of doing it during the reception.
Since we’re having our reception on a cruise after our mass, we’re having a short “ceremony” on the ship to satisfy Carnival’s requirements, so we’ll use this time for someone close to us to say some words of wisdom then we’re doing the unity candle and the arras.
Hope this helps! Best of luck!