Post # 1
I think this question is a longshot but figured why not..
I’m Bosnian and my fiance is American (Jewish). Our wedding will be at a gold course in July 2019. We’re planning to do the typical Jewish wedding traditions (Chuppah, breaking the glass, the Hora), but I also want to incorporate something from my culture but I’m stumped and my parents don’t really have any suggestions either. The only thing I can think of is the “kolo” which is a dance that looks kinda like the Greek circle dance kalamatinos. My other thought is having baklava served as this is a popular bosnian dessert and my dad’s side of the family is in the bakery business back in Bosnia. I’m not sure if they venue would allow that though.
I’m hoping there are other Ex-Yugoslavian brides out there that have other ideas! Thanks in advance!
Post # 2
applemus : I am Croatian (and divorced! but I still wanted to chime in for you)…I did not do the bride dance (people line up to dance with the bride but have to pay) as I didn’t want to be money-grabby, but my cousin did it at her wedding. Also, might be specific to Croatia, but handing out tied sprigs of rosemary to guests is a tradition.
Post # 3
applemus : oh, we also had baklava!
Post # 4
If your venue doesnt allow baklava as a dessert you could do it as a favour!
I think the circle dance sounds fun too.
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2019 - City, State
You could do the thing where the rings themselves are blessed before the ceremony, or the crowning?
Post # 6
jellybellynelly : Hadn’t thought of that!! That’s a great idea 🙂 Thank you!!
Post # 7
laurenalaine83 : Yes, the money grabby thing is an issue! In bosnia you “pay” for your boutonniere, you “pay” for your slice of cake.. it all probably ends up the same amount of money at the end of the day but I don’t like the look of it. I’ll look into the rosemary! Thanks
Post # 8
I’m not Bosnian, but I’ve been to several intercultural weddings, so I can spit some stuff out 🙂 However it does depend 100% on how obvious you want the Bosnian incorproation to be XD
1) At one Russian/Jewish wedding I went to, a Russian orthodox priest blessed the meal, while the rabbi performed the ceremony. The priest also gave a speech about how close he was to the family and how much the Russian heritage meant to him and the family, and how the unification of the two cultures was one of the msot beautiful things he had ever witnessed. It was lovely. At the same wedding, the Russian flag and the Israeli flag stood in the corner, together (in case you can’t tell, this wedding was ALL OUT lolol).
2) At the same wedding, there was tons of Jewish food and Russian food. EVERYTHING was delicious.
3) At a Chinese/American wedding I went to, the traditional Chinese tea ceremony followed the traditional regular wedding ceremony. It was really intimtate and beautiful. Also at that wedding, the groom’s family (the Chinese) wore traditional Chinese attire for the ceremony (though switched into gowns for pictures and reception). That was super dope wedding.
4) I also went to a Quebecois/American wedding. That was my favorite of the three. The Quebecois are VERY STRONG about their French heritage. On the Save-the-Dates, the back was half of the American flag and half of the Quebec flag (I don’t know where they got that custom-made like that but it was so awesome). The invitations also were in both French and English, and most of the signs at the wedding were both in French and English. They served a TON of French wine and American beer, and the centerpieces had red, white, and blue roses (all three are shared colors of the flags). And during that ceremony, which was a Catholic mass, one of the readings was in French (and pamphlets of the translation were in the pews). Poutine was one of the foods in the buffet!
There are so many little ways you can incorporate stuff 🙂 My favorite things from these weddings though were the incorporation of different languages, and adding flags.
Post # 9
Bosnian bride here who had a very Bosnian wedding. Here are some cute things we did that would work for a non religious wedding…
-When the bride steps out of the house candy is thrown at her and all the kids attending pick up the candy. Its for good luck.
-When the bride and groom enter the grooms mother feeds the bride and groom a spoon full of honey for a sweet life together