Post # 1
We’re having a destination wedding but getting legally married prior to arriving for our destination wedding. This gives us the opportunity to completely personalize our ceremony as there are no legal requirements that we have to meet. We’ve asked a close friend to officiate our wedding and are now working together to write the ceremony. I’ve found some ceremony elements we like but we are searching for a way to honor our parents’ marriages. Both of our parents are still married and in wonderful relationships. We want to honor this somehow during our ceremony. I was thinking of using our mothers in the ceremony in some way & our fathers can do a toast during the reception.
Post # 3
You could have the officient ask for the parents’ blessing (changing the words if you like to mention the parents’ long lasting relationships.
1. As our sons and daughters find partners and find homes for the next generation, each family is enriched and enlarged. Would the parents of the bride and groom please stand.
This occasion is a special celebration for you, the parents who have brought these children into the world, and nurtured them into adulthood. Today you are witnessing another stage in the lives of your son and daughter. Your continuing support and encouragement will be needed as __________ and _________ unite in marriage. Will you who have loved and nurtured these two, try with the greatest love and wisdom you have, to support this new couple and help in every way? (answer: yes)
2. “‘Life without love is like a tree without blossom and fruit.’ With that thought in mind, we turn for a moment to the parents who have given so much to these two through the years. (Groom’s parents) and (Bride’s parents), you have great joy in your hearts today. You’ve watched your children grow up, so fast it seems. You’ve watched them mature and develop in spirit, in emotions, in knowledge and in wisdom. You’ve watched as they have entered into this relationship with each other and seen their love grow. You’ve cried, laughed & realized many of your dreams come true for your children. You’ve prayed and provided guidance to help them become the people they are today. You’ve expressed your love for them in countless ways over the years, and now today do so again by pledging your continued love and support. If you indeed commit yourself to loving & supporting (groom and bride) in their life together as husband and wife, will you now acknowledge so by saying “we will?”
You can have the moms get up and read “wishes” that they and some of our guests had for your marriage (they use their own thoughts and collect ideas from friends and family ahead of time).
You can have each of your Mothers present you with a red rose. The you present each other with those roses as your first gift as husband and wife. Your officiant can make a little speech called “rose ceremony”, about how the rose stands for love and that you should make a special place in our home for this symbol and renew it each anniversary, and how when words fail us we should place a rose (or roses) in this place and know that the other cannot say what they are feeling.