(Closed) Incredible…

posted 8 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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485 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

So sorry… that is TOTALLY hurtful!! I cant believe that… and if they asked someone after the fact then have 2.  If shes a good enough friend to ask you in the first place, If I were you I would explain to them how hurt you are and that you will step down but that it is rude and they shouldnt treat a friend like that… sorry again

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m sorry that happened to you. That just shows terrible judgment on their part. I would be very hurt, as well. I’m a very forgiving person, but it’d be hard to get over that. It’s a definite relationship-changer. If you don’t want to go to the wedding, don’t feel like you have to. 

Post # 5
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459 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Hi!  So sorry that your friends did that to you.  I’m confused why they asked you to step down?  Is having “even sides” more important than your support on that day?  Wow, I just could never do that to someone.  I mean sure I might ask the other guy to be in the wedding too, but not kick someone out.  That’s just so inconsiderate!  Personally, I would reevaluation my friendship with them – but that’s just me.

Big HUGS!

Post # 6
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234 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I am so sorry this happened to you.  If it were me I don’t think I would want to atted the wedding either.  All I can say is keep your chin up you did your part as a friend and obviously they are not worth your time.  I would be honored to have a friend like you!

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I am so sorry that they did that to you. Sometimes people really do get caught up in silly little things in the run up to a wedding and lose sight of what matters most: like friendships. If you don’t feel like going to the wedding, politely decline their invitation. When your friend asks you why just explain how you feel and leave it at that.

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@SouthernTulip: I completely agree. Having “lopsided” attendants is much better than alienating a close friend. I just went to a wedding where there were 2x as many bridesmaids as groomsmen. Each groomsman just escorted 2 bridesmaides. They looked like pretty lucky guys!

@SadGroomsman: How does everyone know you’ve been “removed” from the bridal party? Do they have a wedding website they revised? I’d be honest with her. Tell her how hurt you are. That you will step down, so as not to “throw a wrench” into their day, but also feel comfortable telling them you will not come. I’d let them know ahead of time if you aren’t coming though, so they don’t have a “no show” that way you can take a bit of the higher road.

Post # 9
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2015 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Oh my god! That’s awful! I’m so sorry 🙁 Honestly, if it were me, I wouldn’t go to the wedding. It just shows you the kind of people they are, and how they value your friendship.

It breaks my heart when weddings cause broken friendships because it ends up being because of something so stupid (it happened to use while we were planning, too).

Oh well, I mean, at least you know how they feel about you, right?

Post # 10
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5388 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

That is awful! I probably wouldn’t go to their wedding. I’m sorry you are dealing with this.

Post # 11
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396 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

That is absolutely horrible! Your friend should be ashamed of how she/and her fi treated you! That is a horrible horrible thing to do to a friend!

If I were you I would be so mad I wouldn’t even want to go to their wedding!

Post # 12
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721 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m so sorry you’re going through this.  What an insensitive thing to do to a FRIEND only weeks before the wedding.

If I were you I wouldn’t go to the wedding either.  This would probably end our friendship.

Post # 13
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7152 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I so sorry that this happened to you. I cannot believe that your “friends” did this to you. The sides don’t even have to be even, especially if causes you to ask someone to step down.

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

That’s awful! I honestly don’t understand why you should have to step down because they want to add a groomsmen. In our wedding there are 3 bridesmaids and 5 groomsmen. It’s just the numbers we ended up with once we picked who we wanted to stand up with us. What they did was totally wrong. In all honesty, I probably wouldn’t attend the wedding; I would just be way too angry!

Post # 15
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311 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I am so sorry that this happened to you.  That is completely not right.  They should’ve just had an extra groomsman if it meant that much to them.  Honestly, I don’t think I would go to the wedding either.  It sounds like they don’t deserve an awesome friend like you.  ::hugs to you::

Post # 16
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711 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I dont know if I would be comfortable attending. That was very cruel. You can only do what feels comfortable for you though. It’s a tough decision. Good luck. If you decide not to go and they ask, just be nice but honest.

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