- 7 years ago
- Wedding: November 2011
My mother is one of the most overbearing women you will ever meet…EVER. She is a control freak and has raised/trained me to feel her wrath with just a look. For years the look kept me from wearing what I want, painting my nails what color I want, and in general stomping on my self esteem. My entire life she has emotionally blackmailed/abused me and reminded me that I can’t do this or that because I’m supposed to be “the new and improved her”.
So I get engaged to a wonderful guy. My entire childhood she has told me what a mistake getting married is, how men make you miserable and control you and destroy your life. It died down for awhile when she made sure I was isolated from every guy I’ve ever dated. But now that I am engaged she says bitchy things like don’t have children, they will make you miserable, and “are you suuure you love him”.
Fiance has been wonderful and so far despite quirks on both sides of the IL equation he gets along with my parents…well, my dad loves him. My mother however while she behaves is not the most lovey dovey she could be. So my fiance suggests going for lunch to her favorite place. Any other day of the week she is b*tching about how we haven’t gone to this place recently. Tonight she decides no, she’s not going to go. And I’m like…seriously?
My father has a HORRIBLE relationship with his mother in law (her mom) and we have been making a conscious effort to include her even though she is still controlling. SHE is going to make the relationship strained not us, and then no doubt she will talk crap and make me feel guilty. ARGH!!! I can’t wait for the wedding just so I can get away and join the real world.